soon to be mother in law...?

[b2b10308]

My soon to be mother in law is helping me with alot of our wedding things. such as writing on the envelopes for our save the dates, shes doing our flowers with help.. and her and her husband- my finaces father are doing the rehersal dinner. EVERYTHING shes been left to do so far has been screwed up somehow. 1st.. I keep hearing that some people havn't recieved our save the dates when we sent them out a month ago... It is all people on my side of the family and my finaces mother.. I don't know what to say other than what i have said so far.. and i've only asked if shes sent them out and she says no, i will do it this weekend.. and sorry but this weekend wont work.. shes putting it off. 2nd thing she complained about the flowers that i wanted.. shes not paying for them shes just helping put them together (she used to be a florist) and i appreciate it. but i feel like it's my wedding and i want certain things. but she says its a bad idea. 3rd.. they are being RUDE about how much to pay..
for the rehersal dinner...i would like it to be at a certain place..and they want something way different. I feel like yelling in her face.. and syaing look.. your not paying for anything except that.. and our wedding is more that 15000.. and thats what they are paying for. I know they don't have alot of money.. but they have enough. she recently just married his father..before that she was nice.. not shes a mean B****.. i dont know what to do.. tell her to not do anything.. or tell her shes pissing me off..whatttt?

 

[sarah lane]

Tell her flat-out, calmly, "Look, I appreciate everything you've done and all the help you've been giving me with the wedding planning, but this is MY wedding."

Your wedding is supposed to be YOUR special day -- not her's. You want it to be memorable, not stressful. So without yelling (even though I'm sure you'd like to), let he know that. Maybe she doesn't realize what she's doing is pissing you off.