...your sex life sucks? I've been married three years, and I'm very much in love with my husband. We have a great relationship- we do a lot of things together and spend lots of time together. However, the one thing that I have a hard time with is our sex life. We never have sex- his excuse for this is that he doesn't want our relationship to be all about sex- he said that he wants it to be special whenever we do have it- but whenever is like... NEVER. Ok... like 2 times per month... and if we do have sex I have to initiate it. He never does anything about it. I mean we're both in our twenties... I've tried to think of romantic ways and things to do, but I'm out of ideas now.When we do have sex, I feel like there is no passion anymore- like it's just a "hurry up and get it over with" kind of thing...
I've gone the extra mile to try to improve it too- I've lost weight- like I weighed 145 when we got married which is average for someone of my height and I lost an extra 20 lbs which now I look rather sick (I think)... but anyway, I've done the whole dress up thing, I've done the whole sit down and talk about it- and I don't feel like I'm getting anywhere. Still the same results. I keep getting told that things will change- that I won't ever have to ask again about it- but... here I am.
We've always had an open and honest relationship- and I have never once questioned him about being faithful. He's just not that kind of guy- He's the old school- loyal kind of person. I don't know what to do. I'm about to give up on my sex life. I mean... I shouldn't have to keep bringing it up, and begging, and doing everything. Someone help!
I've gone the extra mile to try to improve it too- I've lost weight- like I weighed 145 when we got married which is average for someone of my height and I lost an extra 20 lbs which now I look rather sick (I think)... but anyway, I've done the whole dress up thing, I've done the whole sit down and talk about it- and I don't feel like I'm getting anywhere. Still the same results. I keep getting told that things will change- that I won't ever have to ask again about it- but... here I am.
We've always had an open and honest relationship- and I have never once questioned him about being faithful. He's just not that kind of guy- He's the old school- loyal kind of person. I don't know what to do. I'm about to give up on my sex life. I mean... I shouldn't have to keep bringing it up, and begging, and doing everything. Someone help!