...vacations, splurges AND kids? my family is very blue collar. we work - long hours, but still live paycheck to paycheck.
my fiance comes home after working from sun up to sun down, covered in dirt and grease from his mechanic job. hard, complicated work during the week just to receive enough to barely cover the rent.
and i work several jobs - only to have barely enough to cover the utilities and necessities.
and go ahead and suggest finding a better paying job. that would be soooooo much easier said than done! jobs are so scarce around here that most of the town i live in is on food stamps, medicaid and unemployement. if you have a job at all, you're very lucky.
so anyway, yes i am poor, but i'm having a baby.
and i can't express how happy i am to be expecting. i've had dreams that i've seen through only to watch them blow up in my face; my career, for example. but i've dreamed of having a child for years and years, and now it's finally a reality!
but to hear someone say that poor people shouldn't have kids...
i don't even know what the point in me living would be if i couldn't have children. i'm poor regardless of how hard i try, and i already have to face each day being deprived of things such as television, a car that doesn't have to be fixed every other day, being able to take vacation when i need one from working every single day, and being able to not have to wear the same 5 outfits each week... and people really think that i should be also be deprived of the family i've always wanted in addition to all the things i am already deprived of???
since i am poor, i could see people saying, "well she's too poor to have tv" if i wanted to try to get a satellite or cable so that i could watch a little tv each night before bed despite being poor.
and i could see people saying, "well she's too poor to have nice, new outfits like that" if i were buying clothes despite being poor.
and i could see people saying, "well she's too poor to take any vacation. who does she think she is?" if i were planning a cruise despite being poor.
but having a family is anyone's God-given right, despite their financial status.
i'd rather be dead than to not be allowed to have children just because i am poor. what's the point of living if you must be deprived of EVERYTHING that well-off people get to enjoy?
my fiance comes home after working from sun up to sun down, covered in dirt and grease from his mechanic job. hard, complicated work during the week just to receive enough to barely cover the rent.
and i work several jobs - only to have barely enough to cover the utilities and necessities.
and go ahead and suggest finding a better paying job. that would be soooooo much easier said than done! jobs are so scarce around here that most of the town i live in is on food stamps, medicaid and unemployement. if you have a job at all, you're very lucky.
so anyway, yes i am poor, but i'm having a baby.
and i can't express how happy i am to be expecting. i've had dreams that i've seen through only to watch them blow up in my face; my career, for example. but i've dreamed of having a child for years and years, and now it's finally a reality!
but to hear someone say that poor people shouldn't have kids...
i don't even know what the point in me living would be if i couldn't have children. i'm poor regardless of how hard i try, and i already have to face each day being deprived of things such as television, a car that doesn't have to be fixed every other day, being able to take vacation when i need one from working every single day, and being able to not have to wear the same 5 outfits each week... and people really think that i should be also be deprived of the family i've always wanted in addition to all the things i am already deprived of???
since i am poor, i could see people saying, "well she's too poor to have tv" if i wanted to try to get a satellite or cable so that i could watch a little tv each night before bed despite being poor.
and i could see people saying, "well she's too poor to have nice, new outfits like that" if i were buying clothes despite being poor.
and i could see people saying, "well she's too poor to take any vacation. who does she think she is?" if i were planning a cruise despite being poor.
but having a family is anyone's God-given right, despite their financial status.
i'd rather be dead than to not be allowed to have children just because i am poor. what's the point of living if you must be deprived of EVERYTHING that well-off people get to enjoy?