Kay so. There's this guy I've been friends with for several months. I like him as more than a friend, but keep pushing him away (he flirts a lot) because I don't want to be just another slutty gf.
He's a bit of a player, but he tells me that I'm special, not just any random girl. And I kinda believe him. I'll be honest, I'm funnier, smarter, and hotter than any GF he's had before.
Still. I can't shake the feeling that this thing (he asked me out about three hours ago) is not going to last any more than a week or two. And I'm upset by that because I actually like this guy, this is only my second boyfriend (ever! rar!) and I desperately want to do it right.
Also - I have a 'friend' (I call him a friend with quotes because I honestly don't like him that much) who likes me as more than a friend, and therefore loathes my guy. I don't really like him as a friend, let alone as a FRIEND, so it's not much of a problem, but still...I don't want to hurt him.
There's the more pressing problem, however: A few of my friends have friends who went out with him. For about a week. They tell me he's a bad guy - but I broke up with my FIRST boyfriend because a jealous ex of his told me lies about him. So I honestly dunno.
My close friends are no help because they don't know him at all, and have little to no experience with guys such as these.
He keeps pressuring me for a kiss - only a kiss, but who knows where it could go from there *gulp* - and I'm okay with that (I want one from him too) but I want to be able to keep my dignity and still be seen as a pretty cool chicka.
He also seems a little insecure, for some reason. I dunno. I kin read peepul real gud. I don't know what I should do about this, tying everything else into the picture.
So far my options look like (please add your own if a better one isn't there!)
a) Just go along with it, let what happens happen, and take the (signifigant) risk of getting (signifigantly) hurt.
b) Be a cold bitch. Show him I'm not interested in any way, even though I am.
c) Be a goody-goody two-shoes, and tell him I'm interested, but not today you naughty boy.
d) Flippance? Show him that he'll be fun for a while, but he doesn't really mean enough to me to get worked up over (This could possibly work, if it didn't grate against my Moral SpellChecker. Also, I'm not sure I'm good enough of an actress.)
e) NinjaCrisis! StealthmodeCrisis! Do some reserch with buddies / friends / etc until I've gotten a good picture. (Note - could backfire horribly. What if I did all that pestering only to find out he's a decent guy?...and then ruin my chances because I went behind his back?)
...you can weigh the pros and cons of each one for me, haha.
I have no clue, really. I was going to go with a mixture of A and D but I'm not sure how that would work exactly. Probably why I'm so confused.
HALP PLZ.
Crisis //
He's a bit of a player, but he tells me that I'm special, not just any random girl. And I kinda believe him. I'll be honest, I'm funnier, smarter, and hotter than any GF he's had before.
Still. I can't shake the feeling that this thing (he asked me out about three hours ago) is not going to last any more than a week or two. And I'm upset by that because I actually like this guy, this is only my second boyfriend (ever! rar!) and I desperately want to do it right.
Also - I have a 'friend' (I call him a friend with quotes because I honestly don't like him that much) who likes me as more than a friend, and therefore loathes my guy. I don't really like him as a friend, let alone as a FRIEND, so it's not much of a problem, but still...I don't want to hurt him.
There's the more pressing problem, however: A few of my friends have friends who went out with him. For about a week. They tell me he's a bad guy - but I broke up with my FIRST boyfriend because a jealous ex of his told me lies about him. So I honestly dunno.
My close friends are no help because they don't know him at all, and have little to no experience with guys such as these.
He keeps pressuring me for a kiss - only a kiss, but who knows where it could go from there *gulp* - and I'm okay with that (I want one from him too) but I want to be able to keep my dignity and still be seen as a pretty cool chicka.
He also seems a little insecure, for some reason. I dunno. I kin read peepul real gud. I don't know what I should do about this, tying everything else into the picture.
So far my options look like (please add your own if a better one isn't there!)
a) Just go along with it, let what happens happen, and take the (signifigant) risk of getting (signifigantly) hurt.
b) Be a cold bitch. Show him I'm not interested in any way, even though I am.
c) Be a goody-goody two-shoes, and tell him I'm interested, but not today you naughty boy.
d) Flippance? Show him that he'll be fun for a while, but he doesn't really mean enough to me to get worked up over (This could possibly work, if it didn't grate against my Moral SpellChecker. Also, I'm not sure I'm good enough of an actress.)
e) NinjaCrisis! StealthmodeCrisis! Do some reserch with buddies / friends / etc until I've gotten a good picture. (Note - could backfire horribly. What if I did all that pestering only to find out he's a decent guy?...and then ruin my chances because I went behind his back?)
...you can weigh the pros and cons of each one for me, haha.
I have no clue, really. I was going to go with a mixture of A and D but I'm not sure how that would work exactly. Probably why I'm so confused.
HALP PLZ.
Crisis //