Oneironaut
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My mother in law is famous for her manipulative guilt games. My husband and I moved a year ago to be closer to my family. His mother wouldn't talk to us for about a month. Then she decided to visit and then she decided to put her house on the market and try to move where we are. I was fine with it, I welcomed help with the kids. However it is apparent that watching her grand-kids constitutes an annoyance for her. Last week she showed up unannounced in the middle of a crazy week where I was overloaded as was. Still I didn't get mad. So my mother in law (MIL) and Father in Law (FIL) booted us from our bedroom and stayed for 3 days. ... I got nothing done, and my house got trashed 
She decided that she wanted to give us a gift- she wanted to buy a house with an extra property so that we could pay her to own it. Then she would help with the kids and I could help with my FIL who needs help after his stroke. We were ecstatic, it was a dream come true because houses in our area are ridiculously priced high. Today she has called and said she changed her mind, maybe we should all live under one roof. (the house she was going to get was cheaper than the ones she is looking at now) She changes her mind every three seconds, I will not live under her roof! and our hopes were basically shattered.
My family has announced that they are moving to the midwest. I checked out houses online and seriously the prices are affordable! MIL called and said we had better not think about moving since she is moving . I am pissed. I don't feel that we should HAVE TO stay anywhere that isn't affordable. We shouldn't be stuck because she wants to move. It was a good situation when we would have been paying her rent but now it isn't a good situation and I want to make a better life for us. There are no jobs here, my husband can only find part time work- were the family is moving there is a friend that would give him a good paying job. I am just so frustrated I don't know what to do.
She decided that she wanted to give us a gift- she wanted to buy a house with an extra property so that we could pay her to own it. Then she would help with the kids and I could help with my FIL who needs help after his stroke. We were ecstatic, it was a dream come true because houses in our area are ridiculously priced high. Today she has called and said she changed her mind, maybe we should all live under one roof. (the house she was going to get was cheaper than the ones she is looking at now) She changes her mind every three seconds, I will not live under her roof! and our hopes were basically shattered. My family has announced that they are moving to the midwest. I checked out houses online and seriously the prices are affordable! MIL called and said we had better not think about moving since she is moving . I am pissed. I don't feel that we should HAVE TO stay anywhere that isn't affordable. We shouldn't be stuck because she wants to move. It was a good situation when we would have been paying her rent but now it isn't a good situation and I want to make a better life for us. There are no jobs here, my husband can only find part time work- were the family is moving there is a friend that would give him a good paying job. I am just so frustrated I don't know what to do.