My partner has never met his biological father, he left his mum before he was born. He never really talks about it really but on the rare occasions he does I can tell he finds it quite upsetting. He has said in the past that he wants nothing to do with him but sometimes wonders if he still lives in the area and even if they've passed eachother in the street not knowing.
I hadn't really thought much about any of it really until now. But We have recently had our first child and have been asked a lot of family history health questions. This started me thinking and I'm growing increasingly curious about my partners biological father.
From what his mum says he did try to see my partner once but she did not allow it as he was a drunk, a cheat & waste of space.
I know it's kind of none of my business but I would like to find out more about my sons biological grandfather and whether he has aunties cousins etc.
I would never do anything without talking with my partner first but I know how much the subject upsets him and I'm wondering if I'm just being nosey and that maybe I should just let it lie and leave my questions unanswered? What do you think?
Thanks everyone for your advice! It's very helpful.
In reply to Keith, as I stated above I would never do anything without speaking to my partner first, I certainly would not go ahead in contacting his father knowing that it was against his wishes!
These are my private thoughts and I was merely asking your opinion on whether I should discuss these thoughts with my partner or not?
So as for your warning to me that "if i persist in stirring things up" - I have said nothing and done nothing to stir things up so how could I persist in doing so?
I hadn't really thought much about any of it really until now. But We have recently had our first child and have been asked a lot of family history health questions. This started me thinking and I'm growing increasingly curious about my partners biological father.
From what his mum says he did try to see my partner once but she did not allow it as he was a drunk, a cheat & waste of space.
I know it's kind of none of my business but I would like to find out more about my sons biological grandfather and whether he has aunties cousins etc.
I would never do anything without talking with my partner first but I know how much the subject upsets him and I'm wondering if I'm just being nosey and that maybe I should just let it lie and leave my questions unanswered? What do you think?
Thanks everyone for your advice! It's very helpful.
In reply to Keith, as I stated above I would never do anything without speaking to my partner first, I certainly would not go ahead in contacting his father knowing that it was against his wishes!
These are my private thoughts and I was merely asking your opinion on whether I should discuss these thoughts with my partner or not?
So as for your warning to me that "if i persist in stirring things up" - I have said nothing and done nothing to stir things up so how could I persist in doing so?