Should I tell my mother I've had sex, knowing she won't approve?

[Olena K]

I'm a female teenager, 15 years old. I have overprotective parents, but they aren't too overprotective. Mostly, they're afraid that I'll have sex. Focusing on one parent now, my mother. She has always told me I'm not ready, which I didn't agree with, and still don't, for I had sex twice with my boyfriend, and it was great. I don't understand why it's such a big deal, besides the fact that there's a chance of getting pregnant. She claims it's a big purity thing, and overall a huge commitment. Now the problem is, I'm thinking about telling her, which might make her trust me more and become less overprotective, because I'm telling the truth. On the other hand, she might trust me LESS, for I hadn't obeyed her. What should I do?

 

[sickmuse]

The only way it would be a big deal in this case would be if you regretted having sex with him. Other than that, your mom has nothing to fear except that she doesn't want you to grow up so fast (15 is kind of young for sex btw). She probably doesn't want to tell you that though.
If I were in your shoes I probably wouldn't tell my mom because I'm a chicken and I wouldn't want her to ground me and think I'm a delinquent and all that, but the right thing to do is probably tell her. Once she gets over the shock, she'll probably be more understanding and helpful than scary mom.