Should I say goodbye to the gay bar/ lounge scene of the night?

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For the past 5 years I have gone mostly to a bar in NYC called SBNY and I have managed to meet a couple of guys for a relationship but lately I have only been finding one night stands. I am tired of the hangovers and the wasted money of going out for nothing. I think that at this age of 33 I should resign myself to a life of loneliness. Love keeps escaping me.
I tend to be very shy and I think I am not very interesting. I have tried social groups and dating sites and still no luck
 
C'mon don't give up i bet u are a little depresed right now,why u said that?u r not ugly don'be foolish,keep trying,or try anothers clubs.good luck.
 
I'd move bars. I met my partner in a bar when I was 35, so I wouldn't retire just yet, years after I'd sworn off having anything but a one night stand. (Though at your age...wait, you're younger than me, so who am I to talk). Do not resign. Wait for impeachment.
 
Tomas don't give up. And also have in mind that relationships are not everything in life. You will find someone.

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Dude, you're very handsome (if that is your pic I guess). The thing is that if you keep that mentality you'll never get someone. Also, gay bars unfortunately is full of shallow people that want one night stands. Don't worry so much about relationships, I know you may feel lonely. But when the time comes you'll meet someone. Just don't focus too much about it. What you're going to do is to get frustrated a lot more.

Entendido?
 
frend, i think bars r really like hideaways where people go to, to escape the realities of life.. people usually go there for temporary fun, and so it goes temporary meetups aswell... i mean, these people in bars are strangers.. and when strangers meet most of the time the chances that they'd click w/ eachother r slim.. so rather probbly date sum1 who knows u for who u r in the real world, people like friends, acquaintances, colleagues, gym buddies, y.a. contacts hehe :) huggss..
 
Ur cute.

Shy maybe, uninteresting never.

Just hang out with your friends, life isn't clubs, or dating, or sex, or hangovers. Life is life.

Though u could just move to Sydney and go out with me :)
 
hi. well i will say the following. maybe you are looking too hard,. you don't find live, love finds you. all things come to those who wait.
 
The bad thing about the bar scene is that when you're meeting someone intoxicated, you're actually meeting an altered version of the person. It's better to try to find a sober way to try to find someone (if possible).
 
I'm not an experienced one, huh...but this is what I could tell you: Better get rid of your stupid vice. At your age, you should be responsible enough to minimize or, to make it better, avoid such "Night Life". You should know (by now) that such stupidity is just a WASTE... Don't worry for love would find its way--no need to look for it. Go on with your life and avoid having a One-night-stand ever again--that's not LOVE at all but LUST.
Hope it helps.
Good luck!
 
Join a club that your interested in eg cards,church,play footy.Have a look at the dating services on the internet (that is how my gay friends met)Got to know each other slowly.
 
I'm 17 and I know what the usual bar bunny is after and that's a good time.

There are 10's of ways to meet guys. Maybe asking someone out or striking up a convo at walmart, haha! Always ways!
 
love will never exsist in a gay club
everyone is just looking for sex
=[

its like 1 out of 100 chance to
find someone to have a relationship with in there

Dont give up on life.. go to clubs to have fun
but
attend gatherings with gay friends
or house parties dinner parties
its more of a social grownup scene with those


best of luck!
 
eharmony.com
i am not sure if they have gay tho
and fashion shows, coffee shops, you just have to put yourself out there
 
You don't have to resign to a life of loneliness! Just place yourself in different locations instead of a bar. Try to find things that interest you like sports or whatever and join. You could easily meet new people and get to know a person. At least if you do it this way you won't be constantly wasting your money and never getting anything out of it.
 
that is what the matchmaking sites are all about. you find the guy who is looking for the same things you are. if it sounds too desperate for you then stay alone but i found my guy of ten years that way after only a handful of dates with different guys.

you write your own profile and introduction you put up your best photo and then you have 3 choices.

1 you can search other profiles
2you can let the system find matches based on your questionaire
3 you jus sit back and wait for other members to find you.

eharmony is straight only however try gay friend finder
 
that is what the matchmaking sites are all about. you find the guy who is looking for the same things you are. if it sounds too desperate for you then stay alone but i found my guy of ten years that way after only a handful of dates with different guys.

you write your own profile and introduction you put up your best photo and then you have 3 choices.

1 you can search other profiles
2you can let the system find matches based on your questionaire
3 you jus sit back and wait for other members to find you.

eharmony is straight only however try gay friend finder
 
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