downbytheriver
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My husband & I got married in court in a hurry because he had to be tranfered overseas by his company. The plan was that we'd have a wedding ceremony a few months later and have a baby just after that. We didn't exchange rings or anything. My bestfriend got engaged just after us and planned to have a wedding a few months later. Since my bestfriend & I had promised to be each other's maid of honor since childhood we wanted to plan our weddings around the same time to make it possible. However my husband refused and said our promise to each other didnt matter. Later he started saying that he wanted to buy his parents a car first (they have an old one) and it would take about 8 months to raise that money and then we could consider a wedding and a baby after that. That came to pass but still he said nothing more and never told me what exactly he was planning. After a whole two and half years he just tells me out of the blue that he wants us to have a wedding in April next year and then have a baby after that!
Honestly I am nolonger thrilled to have a wedding because of the hurtful & insensitive things he has said about the whole thing. I feel he dishonored my plan with my bestfriend, put his parents first before our family, changed our plans to have a baby without considering that my biological clock is ticking and now wants to selfishly have his own way without consulting me or even considering what I feel or think about it! I feel its been too long after our court marriage so the wedding is nolonger exciting coz technically I am already his wife... Im now also reluctant to change my surname to his.
What do you think about this situation? Do you think if i cancel this wedding I'll regret it later? What would you do..?
Please don't be mean...
Honestly I am nolonger thrilled to have a wedding because of the hurtful & insensitive things he has said about the whole thing. I feel he dishonored my plan with my bestfriend, put his parents first before our family, changed our plans to have a baby without considering that my biological clock is ticking and now wants to selfishly have his own way without consulting me or even considering what I feel or think about it! I feel its been too long after our court marriage so the wedding is nolonger exciting coz technically I am already his wife... Im now also reluctant to change my surname to his.
What do you think about this situation? Do you think if i cancel this wedding I'll regret it later? What would you do..?
Please don't be mean...