Nikkilew72
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We have a 30 year mortgage, we are still "engaged" after 4 years. he has 2 beautiful kids, I have 2 wonderful boys (one is 19 and already on his own) and a 3 year old absolutely precious daughter. I love him sooo much, but we are both alcoholics. I am a stay at home mom, only because daycare is more expensive than staying home. I go to meetings twice a week, trying to get better, he is a workaholic and says he's not ready to quit, yet he wants ME to change. I have found I don't drink at all when I'm not around him. He won't even respect my 2 simple requests: don't drink in front of me and don't leave stray beers laying around. I think we would both be better off on our own, not because I don't love him, but because I would have to go back to work, would find my sense of worth again, would have no time to drink, wouldn't have someone to tell me how much I've failed once again after a lonely day of non-adult conversation. It all seems so sad to me, but after 4 years, something has to change. I know he's not happy, but neither am I. I sincerely believe I will get better if I am not worried about him...too much to explain, just wish we could get sober together and live happily ever after. Isn't it sad that I've turned to strangers on the internet? Haha! I have lots of friends, but they are too prejudice, so thanks if you answer with honesty and compassion!
47 minutes ago - 4 days left to answer.
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My only reservation, is I don't want to leave his 2 kids, ages 12 & 10..their mom lives a thousand miles away and doesn't want full time responsibility. I'd take them with me even if I could, but I'm pretty sure I'll have a fight on my hands just trying to keep our 3 year old...he promised himself as a child, never to leave his kids. Still, I being in recovery should have preference over him, I hope?
30 minutes ago
I do not in any way, want to keep his daughter from him, I would love for her to see him every day. I am not un-in-love with him, I just don't think I can get healthy while with him :0(
47 minutes ago - 4 days left to answer.
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My only reservation, is I don't want to leave his 2 kids, ages 12 & 10..their mom lives a thousand miles away and doesn't want full time responsibility. I'd take them with me even if I could, but I'm pretty sure I'll have a fight on my hands just trying to keep our 3 year old...he promised himself as a child, never to leave his kids. Still, I being in recovery should have preference over him, I hope?
30 minutes ago
I do not in any way, want to keep his daughter from him, I would love for her to see him every day. I am not un-in-love with him, I just don't think I can get healthy while with him :0(