There's a friend I've been communicating with since January this year. We're not too close, but pretty alright. We're working on some project together and it's going pretty well. The only way we communicate is through MSN Messenger, so it's like an online-friend thing, in which we don't know the other's face, let alone voice.
I never explicitly told him or even hinted that I was a guy--He assumed it. But I played along with it, so I'm also to blame. It felt natural for me to play along because I've always pretended to be a guy in online games and all that. It also prevented unwanted attention, so I've always done it. In fact I am more comfortable as a dude on the internet than I am as a girl.
Thing is, I feel like it's gone for far too long. I mean, it's already September for goodness' sake. He still believes I'm a dude. Plus he has told me he's gynephobic. I don't think it should play too big of a role here, but I feel I should mention it anyway. I respect him a lot and I don't want him to think I've been deliberately lying about this for laughs.
Bottom line, should I go ahead and tell him I'm a girl? If so, how do I go about that? Or is it better if I leave things as they are?
The lot of you are saying that I should tell him, and I think you all may be right. I'm incredibly nervous about this. But I gotta' ask how would you feel if you were the guy mentioned above (gynephobic or not), and I confessed that I'm a girl? It'll help more if you're really a dude, but either way's fine because I'm more on looking for an answer that makes sense.
I'll give best answer to the most thorough (and reassuring--I'm really nervous) answer.
I never explicitly told him or even hinted that I was a guy--He assumed it. But I played along with it, so I'm also to blame. It felt natural for me to play along because I've always pretended to be a guy in online games and all that. It also prevented unwanted attention, so I've always done it. In fact I am more comfortable as a dude on the internet than I am as a girl.
Thing is, I feel like it's gone for far too long. I mean, it's already September for goodness' sake. He still believes I'm a dude. Plus he has told me he's gynephobic. I don't think it should play too big of a role here, but I feel I should mention it anyway. I respect him a lot and I don't want him to think I've been deliberately lying about this for laughs.
Bottom line, should I go ahead and tell him I'm a girl? If so, how do I go about that? Or is it better if I leave things as they are?
The lot of you are saying that I should tell him, and I think you all may be right. I'm incredibly nervous about this. But I gotta' ask how would you feel if you were the guy mentioned above (gynephobic or not), and I confessed that I'm a girl? It'll help more if you're really a dude, but either way's fine because I'm more on looking for an answer that makes sense.
I'll give best answer to the most thorough (and reassuring--I'm really nervous) answer.