I went in yesterday for monitoring as Im a week and a half over due, and the sonographer asked if I knew what I was having before she started, I said no and for her to be careful not to show me any bits on the screen. She did everything then Im not sure what she said as she had a bit of an accent but thought she said "ooh he's a long baby", I was a bit taken back and thought I must have misheard her and she said "ooh, its a long baby" I started asking her if it was really big, as Im being induced in a few days and that was a bit concerning and skipping that she may have just told me the sex. She said "you have a very tall baby, but Im not measuring it today, just checking the fluid, and if it doesn't fit there is another way out anyway" that freaked me out! All I could think about was that Im not going to be able to give birth to this massive child in me and Ill probably split open! I questioned her about it again and she said the size doesn't matter, either it will fit or it wont. Not very reassuring. Then on the way out she said to me "oh and I don't know what your having" this comment sat in my head for a while, and now I think she said it just to cover up the fact that she said "he's". Im so mad, she said it was her first day, and i was really looking forward to the moment when the baby is born and they say "its a____!" and feel like she stole that from me, even though I'll know in a few days when Im induced anyway, I feel really let down.
Do you think I should make a complaint about her? I want to but as i am going in there in a few days to the same department for the prostin gel, I dont want to complain about one of their members of staff, because I fear that I will be very vunerable and they might treat me badly if I make a complaint. Im so angry, I waited all this time, and then she just ruins it, even though I specifically told her I didn't want to know, then I cried all day and was so upset I couldn't sleep last night! Not to mention her comments about its size and the way she handled them, I think were quite rude and unprofessional.
What do you think I should do?
Should i make the complaint after the baby is born maybe? I feel like nothing has gone right for me through my pregnancy, I just feel miserable!
I know what she did was wrong, I just feel like she should learn a better bed side manner, telling me the baby is big, then when I question her about it saying well she is not being paid to measure it today, I felt was very rude, why did she make that comment if she wasn't meant to be looking at it's size? Of course it would just cause me unnecessary anxiety! I think working in a job like that, people skills should come above all else!
I was going to make an anomyous complaint, not mention her or my name, more to just inform management so they could ensure staff are clear about regulations, because what she did was wrong and could get her fired, and has upset me despite what anyone else thinks, and I have never had a problem with any of the other scans before. She did say it was her first day, maybe a warning would help her learn from this mistake and actually save her career by pulling her up on it before she upsets someone else and does loose her job. I don't want someone
Do you think I should make a complaint about her? I want to but as i am going in there in a few days to the same department for the prostin gel, I dont want to complain about one of their members of staff, because I fear that I will be very vunerable and they might treat me badly if I make a complaint. Im so angry, I waited all this time, and then she just ruins it, even though I specifically told her I didn't want to know, then I cried all day and was so upset I couldn't sleep last night! Not to mention her comments about its size and the way she handled them, I think were quite rude and unprofessional.
What do you think I should do?
Should i make the complaint after the baby is born maybe? I feel like nothing has gone right for me through my pregnancy, I just feel miserable!
I know what she did was wrong, I just feel like she should learn a better bed side manner, telling me the baby is big, then when I question her about it saying well she is not being paid to measure it today, I felt was very rude, why did she make that comment if she wasn't meant to be looking at it's size? Of course it would just cause me unnecessary anxiety! I think working in a job like that, people skills should come above all else!
I was going to make an anomyous complaint, not mention her or my name, more to just inform management so they could ensure staff are clear about regulations, because what she did was wrong and could get her fired, and has upset me despite what anyone else thinks, and I have never had a problem with any of the other scans before. She did say it was her first day, maybe a warning would help her learn from this mistake and actually save her career by pulling her up on it before she upsets someone else and does loose her job. I don't want someone