Should I Care That My Ex Girlfriend Has Had Sex With Someone Else During Our Split?

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Basically me and my ex girlfriend are real close and most probably gonna hit it off again after our split in August. I've been close with her since the split, and we're starting to rekindle the essence. Thing is just before we started hooking up with each other, she asked me who the last person I slept with was and I told her that is was her, and she is, and when I asked the same she said that I wasn't, and it really hurt me knowing that during our time apart she was still talking to me and out sleeping with other people. She broke up with me and she's been in contact with me since and it's given me the most mixed messages, so throughout it's been so difficult to move on or stop thinking about her, and I do love her, so hearing that she's slept with someone else is kind of heartbreaking, even though I know we weren't together.

Reason why I bring this up is because I think I've been played or lead on whilst she has been out and had her fun and I don't deserve to have my feelings messed about with, so I have doubts about getting back with her, but at the same time I want her to be mine, as selfish as that sounds.

Some people see sex as just a bit of fun, but when you imagine or know the person you love is doing that with someone else it hurts.
 
You weren't together at the time, but your feelings were still exactly the same, so naturally the hurt is the same as being cheated on. Its completely understandable you feel like this, if she doesnt understand that, she isnt a good person
 
Of corse your going to care but you were split up so you cant really do anything about this.
 
i think you should tell her how you fell and if she does not feel the same way then tell her you are not interested with her anymore and Tell her to get lost
 
Think about the reasons why you didn't sleep with anyone during your split, cause you love her right? And you probably couldn't even imagine sleeping with anyone else because they weren't her, plus some part of you thought you'd still be betraying her? Well she obviously doesn't feel the same because she went ahead and did it so easily, which means she can't care about your feelings as much as you care about hers, so i honestly don't think she is worth it...you have to move on. She could easily do this again if you guys got back together.
 
Not worth your time man. I would care very much and regard sex as a very personal thing you do with your WIFE. She's playing you!
 
My ex slept with another man not long after we split and i tell ya, I'll never forgive her for it. If she can sleep with someone (literally) a week after we had an argument, then just imagine what she's done behind my back.

Move on and dont look back, plenty more fish in the sea
 
If you guys plit up and she had sex with someone else she isn't yours to worry about because you guys werent together but I'll have you know I would NEVER do that to a guy and I would NEVER cheat on a guy either. It's seriously wrong and direspectful. If I was with a guy I would make him feel like a man instead of becoming a tramp if we broke up. It disgusts me that she did that. I hope your doing ok. I think you have a right to be hurt. I know with my ex I got over him after like 1 month cause I knew he was an asshole. I am sure he has sex with someone else cause I know he is seeing someone else but I could care less. It wasn't that long ago but I have moved on. And now I am getting married and expecting my 1st child with the most amazing and wonderful guy I know and I couldn't be more happy
 
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