Helloooo nurse
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I've had more than my fair share of creepy guys, immature boys. I'm almost at my mid 20's and realized what I really want is a man of decency, a gentleman - that rare guy who most women overlook. I'm a decent "good girl" and I'm starting to believe that's the kind of guy I need/deserve. Long story short: I went to dinner w. someone last summer. He's the only genuine gentleman I've ever met - full of respect and manners and something I've always wanted but was never used to. At that time, it's possible I may have come off as emotionally closed/distant. I was going through some things at that time and did not want to get close to someone. I was still me but wasn't my best. We left it at "we should do this again" and he hugged me... he didn't call me or make plans. I texted him a week later and he responded quickly, we talked, and the convo died down. I gave up and deleted his number. I found myself again and forgot about him met other guys, went out w. few and I'm at a good place. I realize the mistakes I did - i have so much more manners than what I may have shown him yet I don't regret how I was feeling at that time. I couldn't help it. He was such a gentleman and I really appreciated how he treated me and everything...I wish I could tell him.
Here's what we did: when we first met, he never gave me the impression he was hitting on me. we got along so well, even danced w. each other but he never touched me at all. He introduced me to some family members/friends (that were there at the event). A friend even came by to ask questions for him, "how old are you, do you have bf? do you like food bc if you do, you two can get some." And with that, he became confident/straightforward and politely asked for my number. When I left that evening, he texted me how it was nice to meet and was interested in hanging out. He wasn't clingy, didn't text me everyday but when he did, it was strictly about sports (that we liked)...i'm used to guys tellin me how interested they are right away...this one didn't. He asked what I preferred what I would like to do and even called his older brother (who's married w. kids) suggestions on where to go. The only "flirty" thing he did (or sounded remotely interested) was sending me a txt of my celebrity crush, saying it was him LOL. When had to pick up an important call, he put it on speaker. He was "sneaky" in his questions (getting my views on kids...how I would punish them, etc...) and the date was like an "interview"... questions straight fr. e-harmony and i was not expecting that. We smiled at each other, laughed...he could've been shy? I don't know. I look back at that realizing he's what I've wanted but to go back would be so random. This was last JUNE! I did add him on facebook (last fall) and he accepted right away but nothing. I'm also at a good place w. myself and I don't wanna bring in a mess and have it ruin my confidence (right when I built it so high and healthy). I was thinking MAYBE of sending him a quick "hello" message and telling him how much I appreciate what he did...but AUGH, that's desperate, isn't it? And I always thought if a man was interested, he would do something....?
my best friend even mentioned how she thought he seemed like the guy I've always wanted yet felt she had to convince me of how "good he was" but I couldn't see it at that time bc I wasn't happy with myself, had to build my confidence up again...and now that my head is clear and think about him here and there...I know better....
Here's what we did: when we first met, he never gave me the impression he was hitting on me. we got along so well, even danced w. each other but he never touched me at all. He introduced me to some family members/friends (that were there at the event). A friend even came by to ask questions for him, "how old are you, do you have bf? do you like food bc if you do, you two can get some." And with that, he became confident/straightforward and politely asked for my number. When I left that evening, he texted me how it was nice to meet and was interested in hanging out. He wasn't clingy, didn't text me everyday but when he did, it was strictly about sports (that we liked)...i'm used to guys tellin me how interested they are right away...this one didn't. He asked what I preferred what I would like to do and even called his older brother (who's married w. kids) suggestions on where to go. The only "flirty" thing he did (or sounded remotely interested) was sending me a txt of my celebrity crush, saying it was him LOL. When had to pick up an important call, he put it on speaker. He was "sneaky" in his questions (getting my views on kids...how I would punish them, etc...) and the date was like an "interview"... questions straight fr. e-harmony and i was not expecting that. We smiled at each other, laughed...he could've been shy? I don't know. I look back at that realizing he's what I've wanted but to go back would be so random. This was last JUNE! I did add him on facebook (last fall) and he accepted right away but nothing. I'm also at a good place w. myself and I don't wanna bring in a mess and have it ruin my confidence (right when I built it so high and healthy). I was thinking MAYBE of sending him a quick "hello" message and telling him how much I appreciate what he did...but AUGH, that's desperate, isn't it? And I always thought if a man was interested, he would do something....?
my best friend even mentioned how she thought he seemed like the guy I've always wanted yet felt she had to convince me of how "good he was" but I couldn't see it at that time bc I wasn't happy with myself, had to build my confidence up again...and now that my head is clear and think about him here and there...I know better....