I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now.
It has been really tough for me because of the amount of support he needs from me,
money, paying debts, money, sacrificing things (selling stuff i have) and time. I just sold my laptop now.
My mom and I even paid for his "cousin's" medical bills. (she had a son in april)
My boyfriend adopted him. But my mom thinks that he might even be his own son and i'm starting to get suspicious now.
Sometimes I feel as though he uses me. He only comes around and is affectionate when i give him money. Other times, when i honestly don't have any cash to help resolve his debts, he throws a huge tantrum and gets pretty scary and threatens he'll kill himself or something.
I still don't know whether he genuinely loves/ cares about me. I highly doubt it.
He gives me too much stress and he always drags me into his financial problems.
I've done everything I've reached the limit. I've given over 5000 dollars, and i'm not rich.
I can't take it anymore, i need to save the money to pay my school fees. This has been going on for over a year and I can't concentrate during class sometimes. (which is very bad)
But I also feel really bad for him.
I don't know... He seems really depressed and he admitted he was suicidal at one point.
I'm not happy with our relationship, because it seems too much work and I can't support him any longer like this. He needs to learn to resolve his problems by himself. Also, I've gotten into fights with my family. They are tired of him coming around and they don't want me to be around with him. They strongly feel he's using me. I cried every night to sleep for the first 7 months of our relationship because of his threats, and he would blackmail and scare me. He would also make up lies and terrify me. I think he pretty much took advantage of everything. And the worst part... Well, sometimes, he would be absolutely desperate for money to pay back some people he and his father were indebted to, a long ago. I would not have any cash so I would ask my parents if they had money. They obviously got upset and didn't give any. So he would encourage me to steal. ( i know that's really bad and immature, please don't judge me) And what did he do with the money? He gambled it, hoping to get more. And he lost.
I don't even think its possible but he always has an excuse, a problem, one after another. We're living in a country where hospitals aren't free. So he claims his son is sick, is mom, or someone else. He would emotionally abuse me and made me steal. Sometimes he says he doesn't have money to play the bills. Keep in mind that his family is financially VERY unstable which you've probably all guessed by now. I would find a job, help him. But worst of all, I would steal and that's when things when downhill.
My family doesn't trust me anymore.
They don't look at me in the eye without hinting suspicion and doubt.
They hate the fact that he's influenced me
They've told me again and again not to see him but now they just ignore me.
It really kills me to see them so disappointed. I know they've never expected me to turn out this way.
I really really love my boyfriend and i care about him. But I'll admit. I've never been so unhappy in my life.
I also recently... Met this guy a couple of weeks ago, he's a senior in my university.
We just clicked and we gave our email addresses, our number and skype adds.
We've been talking for hours every night and he seems really kind and sweet.
We also excessively flirted.
I have feelings for him and he admitted that he had feelings for me as well.
It doesn't go further than that. We haven't done anything physical. Nothing at all.
But the sad thing is, I don't feel guilty about cheating on my boyfriend.
This guy here seems everything my boyfriend isn't. He doesn't push me to do things and is so understanding and gentle. I feel like I can tell him everything.
I don't know what to do.
What should i do?
I really like this guy... I love my boyfriend.
I feel like i'm cheating on him on an emotional level.
My boyfriend threatened to "do" stuff to himself if I left him. I'm beyond lost.
Please help me.
How should i explain it to him?
I really guess we should break up peacefully.
I don't want it to end in a big fight where he hold this huge grudge against me.
I know he's prone to do that.
He's really scary.
It has been really tough for me because of the amount of support he needs from me,
money, paying debts, money, sacrificing things (selling stuff i have) and time. I just sold my laptop now.
My mom and I even paid for his "cousin's" medical bills. (she had a son in april)
My boyfriend adopted him. But my mom thinks that he might even be his own son and i'm starting to get suspicious now.
Sometimes I feel as though he uses me. He only comes around and is affectionate when i give him money. Other times, when i honestly don't have any cash to help resolve his debts, he throws a huge tantrum and gets pretty scary and threatens he'll kill himself or something.
I still don't know whether he genuinely loves/ cares about me. I highly doubt it.
He gives me too much stress and he always drags me into his financial problems.
I've done everything I've reached the limit. I've given over 5000 dollars, and i'm not rich.
I can't take it anymore, i need to save the money to pay my school fees. This has been going on for over a year and I can't concentrate during class sometimes. (which is very bad)
But I also feel really bad for him.
I don't know... He seems really depressed and he admitted he was suicidal at one point.
I'm not happy with our relationship, because it seems too much work and I can't support him any longer like this. He needs to learn to resolve his problems by himself. Also, I've gotten into fights with my family. They are tired of him coming around and they don't want me to be around with him. They strongly feel he's using me. I cried every night to sleep for the first 7 months of our relationship because of his threats, and he would blackmail and scare me. He would also make up lies and terrify me. I think he pretty much took advantage of everything. And the worst part... Well, sometimes, he would be absolutely desperate for money to pay back some people he and his father were indebted to, a long ago. I would not have any cash so I would ask my parents if they had money. They obviously got upset and didn't give any. So he would encourage me to steal. ( i know that's really bad and immature, please don't judge me) And what did he do with the money? He gambled it, hoping to get more. And he lost.
I don't even think its possible but he always has an excuse, a problem, one after another. We're living in a country where hospitals aren't free. So he claims his son is sick, is mom, or someone else. He would emotionally abuse me and made me steal. Sometimes he says he doesn't have money to play the bills. Keep in mind that his family is financially VERY unstable which you've probably all guessed by now. I would find a job, help him. But worst of all, I would steal and that's when things when downhill.
My family doesn't trust me anymore.
They don't look at me in the eye without hinting suspicion and doubt.
They hate the fact that he's influenced me
They've told me again and again not to see him but now they just ignore me.
It really kills me to see them so disappointed. I know they've never expected me to turn out this way.
I really really love my boyfriend and i care about him. But I'll admit. I've never been so unhappy in my life.
I also recently... Met this guy a couple of weeks ago, he's a senior in my university.
We just clicked and we gave our email addresses, our number and skype adds.
We've been talking for hours every night and he seems really kind and sweet.
We also excessively flirted.
I have feelings for him and he admitted that he had feelings for me as well.
It doesn't go further than that. We haven't done anything physical. Nothing at all.
But the sad thing is, I don't feel guilty about cheating on my boyfriend.
This guy here seems everything my boyfriend isn't. He doesn't push me to do things and is so understanding and gentle. I feel like I can tell him everything.
I don't know what to do.
What should i do?
I really like this guy... I love my boyfriend.
I feel like i'm cheating on him on an emotional level.
My boyfriend threatened to "do" stuff to himself if I left him. I'm beyond lost.
Please help me.
How should i explain it to him?
I really guess we should break up peacefully.
I don't want it to end in a big fight where he hold this huge grudge against me.
I know he's prone to do that.
He's really scary.