We dates for about 2 years. It was great, but, we did have a lot of problems. Most of them stemmed from the fact that we were young and didn't have a lot of experience with " relationships." Eventually he got sick of me and after a big fight he cheated on me and didn't contact me for like 4 days. I found out he was breaking up with me through friends and I went to his house to confront him, he told me he cared but just couldn't do it anymore.
I was devastated at first and tried to talk to him for about 3 days until i gave up and began moving on. It broke me apart, but now I understand although it hurt why he did what he did. It wasn't right, but both of us were stuck in a bad place and it was the only way things would have ended and we could both get free.
It's been about a year and we run into each other at mutual gatherings and we still pretend like we don't realize each others existence. It makes me sad that we did have such a trusting a caring relationship, but because of the bad timing and immaturity of us both, we have to pretend like it never happened and we don't exist. I know at a point he didn't want anything to do with me, but now I just want to be friends and be able to talk and look at each other like regular people.
I would never go back to him, that part of my life is over, but I don't want to let him go as a person all together. I want to put stuff behind us, although we don't fit perfectly as a couple, I care about him as a person. I started small by adding him on facebook, he left it pending for a week, but accepted "drunk" a few days ago. A mutual friend of ours said he said he thinks he wants to talk and he might add me. By adding me, has he put the ball in my court to make a move?
I don't know if I should talk to him, some of the stuff he says has given a lot of people the impression he isn't over it all. Am I making excuses or is it normal to just want to be friends.
Ps- Sorry it's so long.
I was devastated at first and tried to talk to him for about 3 days until i gave up and began moving on. It broke me apart, but now I understand although it hurt why he did what he did. It wasn't right, but both of us were stuck in a bad place and it was the only way things would have ended and we could both get free.
It's been about a year and we run into each other at mutual gatherings and we still pretend like we don't realize each others existence. It makes me sad that we did have such a trusting a caring relationship, but because of the bad timing and immaturity of us both, we have to pretend like it never happened and we don't exist. I know at a point he didn't want anything to do with me, but now I just want to be friends and be able to talk and look at each other like regular people.
I would never go back to him, that part of my life is over, but I don't want to let him go as a person all together. I want to put stuff behind us, although we don't fit perfectly as a couple, I care about him as a person. I started small by adding him on facebook, he left it pending for a week, but accepted "drunk" a few days ago. A mutual friend of ours said he said he thinks he wants to talk and he might add me. By adding me, has he put the ball in my court to make a move?
I don't know if I should talk to him, some of the stuff he says has given a lot of people the impression he isn't over it all. Am I making excuses or is it normal to just want to be friends.
Ps- Sorry it's so long.