...overnight at a hotel? My mother in law is coming to visit this weekend to see an art gallery opening and asked to meet in the city for an early dinner, afterwards she would like to take our son to her hotel for an overnight visit.
My son has only met her 4 times and cannot identify her in family photos. He is also not progressing at a normal rate and is currently in therapy to overcome his langauge and behavior challenges. He is about a year or so behind.
My mother in law is very difficult and judgemental. She blames his lack of development on my lack of parenting skills. She spent the day after christmas with him in 08 and wouldn't allow him to eat the foods he liked (hotdogs, mac n cheese, etc) and insisted he eat salad like the adults. She doesn't let him watch any tv (which is sometimes the only thing that soothes him and keeps him from hurting himself). She tells him to stop being "lazy." She doesn't believe he has any problems other than lack of self discipline...he's only 2 going on 3 next month!
The last time she watched him for a long weekend and had to return him early because she forgot she had a business meeting to go to. He had a 2nd degree burn mark on his cheek. She said he caused trouble and crawled too close to the dryer. He was only 13 months old at the time.
My husband said that if I say no to the overnight that it puts him in an akward position. Because my parents take care of our son 2-3x a week. So how can I deny her access? She sends my husband money for our son's care, which I never see...which is another conversation. So is she paying to see him? How am I to translate that?
She doesn't want to spend time together, me her and my son...just them alone. It seems a little weird to me.
So what should I do? I am honestly worried about my son's safety and what she says to him while they are alone. But on the other hand, I don't want to be mean and deny her access to her grandson and piss my husband off.
BTW: my husband works 70 hours a week 6 days/nights a week and I basically raise our son alone with the help of my parents. I work 9-5 and pay $1250/month in medical expenses for my son every month. I have never received money from my husaband or her to pay these expenses.
My son has only met her 4 times and cannot identify her in family photos. He is also not progressing at a normal rate and is currently in therapy to overcome his langauge and behavior challenges. He is about a year or so behind.
My mother in law is very difficult and judgemental. She blames his lack of development on my lack of parenting skills. She spent the day after christmas with him in 08 and wouldn't allow him to eat the foods he liked (hotdogs, mac n cheese, etc) and insisted he eat salad like the adults. She doesn't let him watch any tv (which is sometimes the only thing that soothes him and keeps him from hurting himself). She tells him to stop being "lazy." She doesn't believe he has any problems other than lack of self discipline...he's only 2 going on 3 next month!
The last time she watched him for a long weekend and had to return him early because she forgot she had a business meeting to go to. He had a 2nd degree burn mark on his cheek. She said he caused trouble and crawled too close to the dryer. He was only 13 months old at the time.
My husband said that if I say no to the overnight that it puts him in an akward position. Because my parents take care of our son 2-3x a week. So how can I deny her access? She sends my husband money for our son's care, which I never see...which is another conversation. So is she paying to see him? How am I to translate that?
She doesn't want to spend time together, me her and my son...just them alone. It seems a little weird to me.
So what should I do? I am honestly worried about my son's safety and what she says to him while they are alone. But on the other hand, I don't want to be mean and deny her access to her grandson and piss my husband off.
BTW: my husband works 70 hours a week 6 days/nights a week and I basically raise our son alone with the help of my parents. I work 9-5 and pay $1250/month in medical expenses for my son every month. I have never received money from my husaband or her to pay these expenses.