should bride or groom have ring picking rights?

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ms_froggie3718

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Im getting married in October. It is actually a planned elopement. I'm very excited. My fiance has yet to purchase my engagement or wedding ring which doesn't bother me a bit because we are eloping. We've actually been looking at rings together which I love. The problem is that we both want to different things. I would love a beautiful sapphire engagement ring with a simple band in white gold. He says that my rings are a reflection of him and a sapphire ring would look cheap thus making him look cheap. He wants to put a big ol' diamond on my finger. ( which I know shouldn't upset me.) What bothers me is that I don't want him to buy a ring as a status symbol, I want a reflection of his love. He thinks I'm being ridiculous, but appreciates my feelings of sentiment over the desire to have a huge piece if bling.

Who's right? Should I have the right to choose what kind of ring I have because we are eloping and it isn't a formal or traditional engagement?

Or should he have the right to choose because it is a gift from him to me? ( plus he did say he would get me a sapphire ring later on)
 
He should take your feelings into account. You are the one who will be wearing it for the rest of your life, not him, so you should def. have a say. I had a similar problem with my fiance. He wanted to get me a big 'ol diamond with tons of little diamonds and stuff on it, but that's not me. I wanted a smaller and simpler diamond. And that's what he got me, because afterall is said and done, it's on my hand.
 
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