Sex with a girl I don't really like?

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Ok. I'm sixteen and a virgin, and there's this girl that I've been messing around with lately that is a year older than I; I like her OK, but she isn't like "the one" or anything. I'm not even sure I would want to date her for any length of time. I am like 95% sure I can "get some" from her, though. Problem is: she isn't virgin; she's only done it once before, but still. And lately I've been wondering a few things
"Is this going to be something I look back on years from now and wonder why I didn't do it with someone I really cared about?"
"Would it have been better with someone else who is a virgin? This is a once-in-a-lifetime experience (the virgin sex part, not the sex in general part, god willing)."
"When I am having sex with someone I care about, who likely may be a virgin, will I feel like shit for not waiting for her?"
@ barkersr: Firstly, that wasnt my Q, second, a quick google search gave me a 2% chance of comdom breakage and a liberal estimate of 25% chance of impregnation without a condom... that seems to me like a 1/200 chance of pregnancy w/out a 72-hour pill. Please answer a question with a relevant and accurate answer.
 
Anytime you have sex there is at least a 30% chance of her getting pregnant so you need to decide if she is someone you want have a baby with?Even if you didn't marry her you would still have to see her and pay child support plus be in her and the babies life for the next 18 years.So is this someone you want to have a child with?I know there are birth control and condoms but all in all the only work about 70% of the time.It is a little better odds than the lottery but still not odds I would want to live with.How will your Mother like her when she meets her and knows you got her pregnant?Have fun!
 
first question: yes
second question: no

why no, because youre asking it wrong, its not that it would have been better with someone else who is a virgin, but it would have been WAAAAAAY better with someone one really loved. who cared about, ur personality, ur looks, ur style, ur talk, ur way of treating her, ur way of talking to her...all she wants is braggin rights. u said it better than i, she isnt the one, when u find the one u'll know. u also know when she isnt the one.
 
god, just don't do it!
If your feeling unsure, just DON'T flipping do it!!!

Look, you don't really like her, and no offence... but if she's really done it that many times, what makes you think you won't catch something?

just. don't. do. it. -.-
 
i would wait, i think sex is something special you should share with someone you truly care about, not just someone whos there. you know..(unless like the world was gonna end and you and some other girl were like the last two people on the planet then ide say go for it...but i wouldn't be here...o wel) also i wouldn't worry about the whole virgin thing, its too over rated in todays society
 
Ok this is the right answer. DO NOT DO IT IF YOU DONT LOVE HER. I'm 15 and i just did it with my girlfriend who i have been with for a little over two months and i love her more than anything and I'm sure she is the "one", but we talked a little bit last school year and both knew that we liked eachother and never did anything about. So over the summer we were unsure about what we thought about eachother, but then she told me she had a boyfriend for like a month. Then she told be they had sex and i felt like shit and so did she cus she. Bottom line, DO IT WITH SOMEONE SPECIAL THAT YOU MAY LOVE AND WILL NOT REGRET IT. It is more than just f***ing and getting some. but its hard to believe that until you actually fall in love. Hope it goes good for you.
 
Since you have so many concerns, and questions, I'd say that is a pretty good indication that you are not ready.

Virginity seems like it is important to you, so I wouldn't jump into anything that you're not 100% sure about.

Wait and you will find somone that you care about, then it will seem right.
 
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