onora_breaniann
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...perspective? Is it wrong to be sexually active with others while dating someone exclusively?
My long time bf and I are expecting a child in december and due to complications with the pregnancy, I have been put on bed rest....and in turn, have been told no sexual activity due to preterm labor issues. We are VERY close and have a great relationship with EXCELLENT communication. Here's the problem. We both have very high libidos and enjoy sex on a more than normal level. Seeing as I can no longer take part, ect. I was wondering if I could get some input and thoughts on this idea before presenting it to my bf.
We are already active in the swinging LifeStyle, so sex with others is not that big of a deal to us....it is just sex after all. However, when this has been done in the past...it has been both of us participating. I was wanting to suggest to him that it would be ok if he wanted to continue to pursue sex with other women that it was alright by me so long as I knew about it and approved of the other woman. Basically it would be giving him permission to seek out sexual encounters with other woman without me until after the baby is born and I am able to give him what he needs. I don't want him to have to go without just because I have to.
I just want to make clear that this is MY idea and have not been pressured in ANY way by him.
thoughts on this??
I'd be ok with using hands & porn...ect. but as I'm sure most guys out there will agree with....it's not exactly the same thing
I'd really like to get a guy's point of view on this.
15 minutes ago
and please....if your answer involves you pushing your religious beliefs on me, dont bother with an answer. We aren't christian and have no desire to be.
I hate to keep adding to this but I guess I haven't been very clear. He has in no way shape or form tried to push this on me or complained in any way about the lack of sex. He doesnt even know about this idea yet so please dont get the idea that I am being pressured into this AT ALL.
I just want to hear from the GUYS out there......what would be your reaction if your s.o. proposed this to you.
My long time bf and I are expecting a child in december and due to complications with the pregnancy, I have been put on bed rest....and in turn, have been told no sexual activity due to preterm labor issues. We are VERY close and have a great relationship with EXCELLENT communication. Here's the problem. We both have very high libidos and enjoy sex on a more than normal level. Seeing as I can no longer take part, ect. I was wondering if I could get some input and thoughts on this idea before presenting it to my bf.
We are already active in the swinging LifeStyle, so sex with others is not that big of a deal to us....it is just sex after all. However, when this has been done in the past...it has been both of us participating. I was wanting to suggest to him that it would be ok if he wanted to continue to pursue sex with other women that it was alright by me so long as I knew about it and approved of the other woman. Basically it would be giving him permission to seek out sexual encounters with other woman without me until after the baby is born and I am able to give him what he needs. I don't want him to have to go without just because I have to.
I just want to make clear that this is MY idea and have not been pressured in ANY way by him.
thoughts on this??
I'd be ok with using hands & porn...ect. but as I'm sure most guys out there will agree with....it's not exactly the same thing
I'd really like to get a guy's point of view on this.
15 minutes ago
and please....if your answer involves you pushing your religious beliefs on me, dont bother with an answer. We aren't christian and have no desire to be.
I hate to keep adding to this but I guess I haven't been very clear. He has in no way shape or form tried to push this on me or complained in any way about the lack of sex. He doesnt even know about this idea yet so please dont get the idea that I am being pressured into this AT ALL.
I just want to hear from the GUYS out there......what would be your reaction if your s.o. proposed this to you.