Sex question: I'm in a relationship with a very physical man.?

[Green Tea Happy]

I love my boyfriend very much, and we have been together for 4 years. He is 26 and I am 22. However, I am not done with college yet so we are still just dating, but we are thinking of marriage. I like that we have sex but what bothers me is that he is so physical with me. We are in a long distance relationship because he had to move home (he's done with college) to get a job. I don't like when he talks about wanting to do stuff to me on the phone or when we see each other that he is so meet my needs for sex now. I want to have sex with him, but I want him to meet my needs too. I want him to not act like I'm his sex toy when he sees me. I want him to me more loving about sex and less physical about it. I have recently had bad expiriences happen at college with other guys from a result of drinking too much. He knows about these. And because of that I really feel hurt and touchy at the subject of sex. I would feel much more comfortable having sex with him if he was more loving about it, not so pressuring, and less physical. As a matter of fact I wouldn't mind just not having sex for a while. But I am responsible for his sex life, because we we have been together a long time, have had sex a long time, and pretty much act like we are in a long distance marriage. I just wish that he would consider how I feel more, instead of just his needs. I wish he didnt' think having sex with me was his right, but his privalige. I guess this really isn't a question, I'm just confused what to do in this situation. Any other woman feel her man is too physical? I just want him to love me inside before the outside. I know he loves me inside alot, but he is being kinda selfish about his needs as a man. I want to be respected more.
I have had a conversation with him about it. I just don't know how to get him to respond to what I am saying. I want him to take what I am saying seriously.