Sex problems with my husband?

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Hello, all. I am a happily married 27 year old female. I am absolutely crazy about my husband. We have a handsome son together (who is 1 and 1/2 years old). Lately, I'd say over the past 6 or 7 months, my sex drive has significantly decreased. I don't know why I'm not in the mood, I'm just not. I didn't think much of it honestly, until my husband brought it up. We've had several talks about it, but no changes have occured. Now that some time has gone on, he's starting to feel unwanted. He's worried that I find him fat or unattractive. He's also concerned that I've been cheating. I find him just as attractive as the day I met him, and I would never cheat on him. I don't know why I'm not "horny". What do you guys think?
 
It happens when you're in a marriage and specially since you have a 1.5 yr old son. You're tired so your sex drive decreases, even if you don't feel any more tired than usual. It's normal don't worry, if you're husband is worried tell him maybe you guys can do other romantic things or he can help you get in the mood. Good luck!
 
Hello! I'm 30 with 3 kids and I totally know where you're coming from. Basically, I think you're just exhausted, pure & simple. You have a young son and you probably go to work. If you don't work, then you're still tired because you're home taking care of a toddler all day. It has nothing to do with how you view your husband, but it's hard for men to understand that because sex is so important to them.

My advice is to get a reliable sitter for your son, overnight if you can, and stay home with your hubby alone. Order in, watch movies, enjoy each other. Dress sexy and offer to give him a full body massage....trust me, it'll get you in the mood. Good luck!
 
how long since you had a physical? Being a young mom is tough and takes a lot out of you.

do you do date nights once a week? If not, give it a shot

Good Luck
 
This is a common problem after the birth of a child, and I understand your husbands frustration. Try and plan a date night, let your husband rub you with some lotion, flirt with him..Some medications can cause this so talk to your doctor and get a physical exam.
 
I had the same problem and I'm almost the same age as you. I don't know but every woman is different. Our bodies are so complicated. For, me, it was stress. I worked to many hours and I was always tired. Not only that but my job was extremely stressful and very demanding. I also had put on little weight for a while and that just made it even worse. I didn't even want to take my clothes off much less have sex!!! It caused a lot of problems sexually with me and my husband. He even resorted to porn ( be careful).

To make a long story short..... I quit my job, got a part-time job. I lost all the wieght and now our sex life is better than ever. I actually have time now to build up an appetite!!

For you, It could be your child. I don't want to make any assumptions. I don't have any kids of my own. But I hear it from friends who have kids and they have the same problem. They blame it on the kids though.

Make date nights with your husband without your baby. Get out and have a good time together. It could help.
 
GNC has supplements you can try they boost your libido.I would speak with your dr.He/she can prescribe something for you to help. You may be tired or stressed.How about a date night? Let the little guy stay out.You and your husband can have a nice romantic night alone! Make sure to wear something sexy not only for him but to boost your confidence!Good luck
 
I think your crazy. Your only 27! Buy some new lingerie & show your man how sexy you think he really is!
 
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