Sex? Indecision.... Advice, please?

[jesse]

My boyfriend and i have been pretty physical in the last seven months we've been together and to be blunt, he's probed the question of intercourse WAY more than once. I've been educated with all the facts and those little workshops on safe sex when I was younger (therefore well aware of the facts, thank you very much), but they've never truly offered an advice to help me make my decision.
The closest we've ever gotten was when he penetrated me half an inch before I quickly told him to stop and that was that. We are comfortable enough to sleep naked with each other without risk of it leading to anything else. We've talked about it and agreed that it was only right when both of us were ready.
I'm not sure if I really want to give my virginity to him- one moment I'll be feeling absolutely in love and ready to connect, the next, I'll be retreating into myself and be overwhelmed with the consequences and possibilities.
We both have access to pills, condoms, pregnancy tests..etc.
The only problem is my inability to make a decision.
Any advice?

 

[ThorneDrake]

Discarding the STDs and the pregnancy I would tell you to go for it. It really seems like you like this guy and he feels like sharing this with you, something which I think would be an interesting new experience for both of you. I would also advice you not to think about it as "losing your virginity"... take out the losing part, you are not losing anything, you're gaining new experiences and growing up. I think the "losing" part should be exchanged for a "sharing". You are sharing a new experience with him, go for it. Virginity is not a possession you could lose or win, its just a state of mind. You are what ever you want, yourself is intangible, you are yourself and that's it. No one can take your virginity away, you just share it with someone. If in the end it doesn't work as planned, go on... share experiences with someone new.

Hope it helps

Edit: And pills/condoms, DO WORK. Don't listen to the paranoia guys.