Sex at 15 (good or bad)?

[Oh.Em.GeE iT's LiSsY]

Ok, There's this boy, I've liked him for a long time (6 1/2 years] but he found out 3 years ago. Well, lately we've been talking about sex. I love him, I don't like him, I'm positive I love him. He's said he's liked me, but never said he loves me. Everytime I say something about sex he's asking me if I want to do it, part of me wants to because of my affection for him, but part of me doesn't because I've witnessed friends having sex and then being left by there boyfriends, and that's what I fear. If I did it do you think I should talk about it with my mom, I'm most concerned about her knowing because I don't want her disapointed in me. We've tried to have sex before but I wlaked out (we were safe though]. So, should I do it (advise, tips, logical andwers are good] =]

 

[Emma]

Unlike some of the answers you're going to receive, I think people are mature enough at your age to engage in sex. HOWEVER, it doesn't sound like you're ready, and I would even go so far as to say that it doesn't seem like this is the right guy for you to have sex with. If you feel comfortable enough to talk about with your mom, do so. It seems a bit that this guy is gently (or not) pressuring you into having sex with him. Some teenage guys are fun and nice, but a lot of them just want to have sex. I know you have strong feelings for him, but sex is different for women--it's more emotional, and frequently more complicated. I read somewhere that this is because women have "baby carriages up there"--a joke, but I'm sure you know what I mean.

Anyway, I would suggest you sit down and have a talk with your mom. You're in a complicated situation and it might be a good idea to talk things out with an adult. If you can't approach her mom, then I would really try to hold off having sex with this guy--you want sex to feel exciting, fun, and most of all, safe, and I don't think it will be under the circumstances you describe above.

Good luck!

 

[Naomi R]

i thinks it bad and he didnt even say he loves you yet and you guys still tryed to have sex.

 

[cristol01]

Don't do it we as women are born with a nature to love and be gentle. Guys don't think like us they only think about getting more and more booty to us sex with one person is special and means love. To a guy sex just means he's Masculine the more booty he gets the more he feels like a man.