threatens me with police? Ok so im 20 years old Greek orthodox, I have a boyfriend who is Egyptian and Muslim, we have been dating for almost 2years in secret to my mother and father. it was really hard lying everyday i didn't want to but i had to because my mom is strict traditional mother. but it was enough and it wasn't a normal relationship by lying all the time and my friends would get involved because i would say im with them.
Anyways i finally built the courage to tell my father, he doesn't accept but he will not stop me from seeing my boyfriend ( i don't live with my dad) . me and my boyfriend been though a lot these years having ups and downs on our relationship and we only fight because of my mother (i live with her) she doesn't want me to date. so i was sick and tired of it and i finally said to my mom very respectfully and maturely i told her im sorry ive been lying this whole time but i have a boyfriend ( she knows who he is and told me to break up with him and though that i did). she thinks so badly of my boyfriend because hes "tan" and not as white as me. and also because of the different religion. my father side is actually muslim but she stll not accept me to at least date anyone and she wants me to find some Greek guy.
I try to tell her im not changing my mind i don't want to lie now im going to tell u who im with but now im afraid she will get physical with me and try to hold me back from seeing him. if i try to get out of the house cuz she done it before all we do is hang out go to movies to the city normal like anyone else but i cant have that she doesn't want to bring him in the house or anything to do with him and even threatens to call the police and say that my boyfriend is bothering me. its ridiculous i chose for him to be my boyfriend . my boyfriend is a nice amazing guy he has his religious views and i have mine but that doesn't effect our lives we want to see each other freely. were not asking to marry but want to be together more. and she is now saying such things as its me or him and you don't know anything about relationships your doing a mistake everyone is going to laugh at you. i just been so angry with what stupid garbage my mom has been saying that he wants to control me but its not true and thinking i might change my religion and more stupid ideas. i need advice i don't know how to deal with her and i know i am right im not doing anything wrong by having a boyfriend i am 20 years old and my boyfriend is 25 .
We just want to peacefully date like all my friends im afraid i will lose him over my crazy family.. everyone else that i talked to things im also right and that its my decision to be with who i want to be with . my father even thinks he is a bad guy trying to use me just because my dad has a good business and money, its sick how they are thinking because my boyfriend has been by me for these 2 crazy years loves me very much he never used me in any way possible and always tried to help me and give me the best he has been doing but me i been ruining a lying and messing up the relationship because of my parents. it isnt fair and this is even more weird my dad is Muslim mom is orthodox they eloped and got married . i don't want to do something crazy but they are driving me too like they did. no one wants to understand and my dad thinks any guy i should date should be very successful from the moment but not every one blossoms and earns money in there early 20s
by the way i never went against to anything she tells me . i also never smoked or went to a club or drank with friends( these things i dont want to do there not important to me and my boyfriend doesn't do this either ) i always come home before 1am. i rarely drive because of her also so its hard im kept in a shell. i need some advice she is driving me crazy. but my brother is a different story (thats another story for sure) anyways advice needed big time i dont want to ruin my relationship with my mom and my boyfriend i love them both so much
We live in NY
Anyways i finally built the courage to tell my father, he doesn't accept but he will not stop me from seeing my boyfriend ( i don't live with my dad) . me and my boyfriend been though a lot these years having ups and downs on our relationship and we only fight because of my mother (i live with her) she doesn't want me to date. so i was sick and tired of it and i finally said to my mom very respectfully and maturely i told her im sorry ive been lying this whole time but i have a boyfriend ( she knows who he is and told me to break up with him and though that i did). she thinks so badly of my boyfriend because hes "tan" and not as white as me. and also because of the different religion. my father side is actually muslim but she stll not accept me to at least date anyone and she wants me to find some Greek guy.
I try to tell her im not changing my mind i don't want to lie now im going to tell u who im with but now im afraid she will get physical with me and try to hold me back from seeing him. if i try to get out of the house cuz she done it before all we do is hang out go to movies to the city normal like anyone else but i cant have that she doesn't want to bring him in the house or anything to do with him and even threatens to call the police and say that my boyfriend is bothering me. its ridiculous i chose for him to be my boyfriend . my boyfriend is a nice amazing guy he has his religious views and i have mine but that doesn't effect our lives we want to see each other freely. were not asking to marry but want to be together more. and she is now saying such things as its me or him and you don't know anything about relationships your doing a mistake everyone is going to laugh at you. i just been so angry with what stupid garbage my mom has been saying that he wants to control me but its not true and thinking i might change my religion and more stupid ideas. i need advice i don't know how to deal with her and i know i am right im not doing anything wrong by having a boyfriend i am 20 years old and my boyfriend is 25 .
We just want to peacefully date like all my friends im afraid i will lose him over my crazy family.. everyone else that i talked to things im also right and that its my decision to be with who i want to be with . my father even thinks he is a bad guy trying to use me just because my dad has a good business and money, its sick how they are thinking because my boyfriend has been by me for these 2 crazy years loves me very much he never used me in any way possible and always tried to help me and give me the best he has been doing but me i been ruining a lying and messing up the relationship because of my parents. it isnt fair and this is even more weird my dad is Muslim mom is orthodox they eloped and got married . i don't want to do something crazy but they are driving me too like they did. no one wants to understand and my dad thinks any guy i should date should be very successful from the moment but not every one blossoms and earns money in there early 20s
by the way i never went against to anything she tells me . i also never smoked or went to a club or drank with friends( these things i dont want to do there not important to me and my boyfriend doesn't do this either ) i always come home before 1am. i rarely drive because of her also so its hard im kept in a shell. i need some advice she is driving me crazy. but my brother is a different story (thats another story for sure) anyways advice needed big time i dont want to ruin my relationship with my mom and my boyfriend i love them both so much
We live in NY