Okay, so I'm about to move into my college dorm in two weeks. I've already spoken with my roommate last month. At first she was very talkative, asking me my interests and views on partying and stuff like that. She suggested we meet up before moving in together so we could get to know each other. She worked out who would buy the microwave and who would bring the tv and fridge. I got a really good first impression from her, she SEEMED really nice and cooperative. Good roommate potential, y'know? Well she moved into our dorm early to do a summer program. And she has a roommate for the program, who is supposed to move once actual school starts. Well, I eventually stopped hearing from her. Which wasn't a big deal for me, I figured she made friends and was doing her own thing. It was fine, whatever.
Now a week and a half ago I get a facebook message from her summer program roommate who asked me if I would consider switching dorms with her. Her reason being that she is from a different country and she already had all her belongings in her room and no one to help her move it across campus to her assigned dorm for when school starts. I felt bad, but I wanted to live in that particular dorm, and that's why applied to the dorm. It's an all freshman dorm, I'm doing a freshman program that is only offered if you lived in that dorm. I also didn't want to move across campus because of the location. Plus, I already worked out things with my roommate ( or so I thought) I told her I didn't want to move, but I felt bad and would totally help her move her stuff. Well, she never replied. Which I think is rude, because if you're that desperate for a fix then you should reply.
Well a week and a half later she sent me another message telling me if I would switch with another girl who lived in the same hall, So basically it would of been a three way switch. I would end up in a different room in the same hall, the girl who asked me to switch would stay in my room, and the girl whose room I would take would take the room in the different hall. I didn't reply right away, cause I wanted to think it through. I didn't know who'd I'd be rooming with, I had already bought a microwave, I liked that my room would be on the top floor. (or so I thought it was, turns out it's not)
Also, why couldn't she just move her stuff into a different room, and just do a direct switch with the girl who wanted to move? I get that it's hard to move your stuff across campus without a car, but I'm sure you can manage carrying your belongings to a different room in the same hall. They have an elevator, it can't be that difficult. So, I started to think that she and my roommate just want to live together, and don't want to get new roommates.
Then I get a text message from this girl! Telling me to check my facebook messages, because "She found a way we could all get what we wanted..." My supposed to be roommate gave my number to some girl I don't know, just so they can get me to get out of their way. I was being backed against the wall.
So I asked my roommate (who hasn't contacted during this whole thing) if she would prefer to live with this other girl, and she was like "I just think it would be easier that way no one has to readjust." What? you mean YOU don't have to readjust. I had just bought a microwave because she asked me too. She become really snippy even though I was just trying to talk. ( I was trying really hard to be civil, becuase I think it's important to communicate effectively with your roommate) So I just let it go and asked about the other room. Turns out it's a triple room.....meaning that THREE people are living in a tiny ass dorm. ummmmmm no
I told my roommate that I didn't want to move into a triple.
She then become even more snippy and told me I was making a big deal for no reason, and I shouldnt even care where I ended up because I wasn't even moved in yet.
I then told that it's not fair that I have to make a change just so she can stay comfortable. I told her that she should move out then with her new best friend and find a different room that they could stay roommates in.
She then told me she would try to find me a double room to switch with and I agreed because I don't want to live with someone that unreasonable.
She was very rude, and mean about the whole thing. I don't care that they want to live together. I'm aware that just because we're roommates doesn't mean we have to be friends. But she just expected me to say yes and then got angry when I wasn't okay with it. I tried to tell her my side, but she just lashed out at me....
So, I hope I can switch. But I would like some advice how to handle this situation, especially if we can't find a switch and I have to live her. It's going to horribly awkward and I'm scared she's
Now a week and a half ago I get a facebook message from her summer program roommate who asked me if I would consider switching dorms with her. Her reason being that she is from a different country and she already had all her belongings in her room and no one to help her move it across campus to her assigned dorm for when school starts. I felt bad, but I wanted to live in that particular dorm, and that's why applied to the dorm. It's an all freshman dorm, I'm doing a freshman program that is only offered if you lived in that dorm. I also didn't want to move across campus because of the location. Plus, I already worked out things with my roommate ( or so I thought) I told her I didn't want to move, but I felt bad and would totally help her move her stuff. Well, she never replied. Which I think is rude, because if you're that desperate for a fix then you should reply.
Well a week and a half later she sent me another message telling me if I would switch with another girl who lived in the same hall, So basically it would of been a three way switch. I would end up in a different room in the same hall, the girl who asked me to switch would stay in my room, and the girl whose room I would take would take the room in the different hall. I didn't reply right away, cause I wanted to think it through. I didn't know who'd I'd be rooming with, I had already bought a microwave, I liked that my room would be on the top floor. (or so I thought it was, turns out it's not)
Also, why couldn't she just move her stuff into a different room, and just do a direct switch with the girl who wanted to move? I get that it's hard to move your stuff across campus without a car, but I'm sure you can manage carrying your belongings to a different room in the same hall. They have an elevator, it can't be that difficult. So, I started to think that she and my roommate just want to live together, and don't want to get new roommates.
Then I get a text message from this girl! Telling me to check my facebook messages, because "She found a way we could all get what we wanted..." My supposed to be roommate gave my number to some girl I don't know, just so they can get me to get out of their way. I was being backed against the wall.
So I asked my roommate (who hasn't contacted during this whole thing) if she would prefer to live with this other girl, and she was like "I just think it would be easier that way no one has to readjust." What? you mean YOU don't have to readjust. I had just bought a microwave because she asked me too. She become really snippy even though I was just trying to talk. ( I was trying really hard to be civil, becuase I think it's important to communicate effectively with your roommate) So I just let it go and asked about the other room. Turns out it's a triple room.....meaning that THREE people are living in a tiny ass dorm. ummmmmm no
I told my roommate that I didn't want to move into a triple.
She then become even more snippy and told me I was making a big deal for no reason, and I shouldnt even care where I ended up because I wasn't even moved in yet.
I then told that it's not fair that I have to make a change just so she can stay comfortable. I told her that she should move out then with her new best friend and find a different room that they could stay roommates in.
She then told me she would try to find me a double room to switch with and I agreed because I don't want to live with someone that unreasonable.
She was very rude, and mean about the whole thing. I don't care that they want to live together. I'm aware that just because we're roommates doesn't mean we have to be friends. But she just expected me to say yes and then got angry when I wasn't okay with it. I tried to tell her my side, but she just lashed out at me....
So, I hope I can switch. But I would like some advice how to handle this situation, especially if we can't find a switch and I have to live her. It's going to horribly awkward and I'm scared she's