I moved to a new place and told myself i wasn't going to date, but then I met this boy, we'll just call him 'x'. He had every quality i was looking for in a boyfriend. He is nice, super smart (he is in chemistry and pre calculus and a freshman(I'm 14 and he is 15)), he is funny, he was raised well and knows right from wrong, he treats me well, I'm comfortable around him, he is easy to talk to, and I trust him. Another thing i like about him was he told me he wanted to wait until he got married to have sex. I thought that was a great thing because I wanted to at least wait until I was 17, and I thought that would take out the pressure.
We've been dating a few months now, well actually just about 3 and a half. He wants to have sex now. I know he is not going to make me do anything I don't want to but I feel like i'm obligated to. I mean I want to but I know that it'd be better if i waited. plus i'm moving again at the end of this year.
My problem is I think I have been leading him on. Well, i know I have. I feel awful about it. I told him i wasn't ready to have sex, but i wanted to. I've also told him my many reasons why i don't want to (I'm moving, we could regret it, what are others going to think, etc.) I want to have sex but there is something telling me not to. I really like 'x', but I do not love him. I know I don't. But I do like him immensely. He wants to tell me he loves me, but I know its just going to be lust talking, but he wants to tell me in person which would mean a lot more then in a text right? I know he is not in this relationship for sex, but sometimes i feel like he is. Sex is all we talk about now. He tells me that sex will 'bond us' which is possibly will.
We are both virgins by the way
Another thing I am guilty for is joking around and talking about having sex with him sarcastically.
I also think his friends influence him. Two of our close friends have had sex many times with their girlfriends and they are very close and have very strong relationships. They have also been dating a long time.
We have condoms just in case..
Bottom line i just need help. any advice? please help because I don't have a best friend figure to talk to about this besides him, and I can't go to my mother.
Also if you think i shouldn't have sex with him how should i tell him no. I'm very honest with him when it comes to this because I know it is very important.
We've been dating a few months now, well actually just about 3 and a half. He wants to have sex now. I know he is not going to make me do anything I don't want to but I feel like i'm obligated to. I mean I want to but I know that it'd be better if i waited. plus i'm moving again at the end of this year.
My problem is I think I have been leading him on. Well, i know I have. I feel awful about it. I told him i wasn't ready to have sex, but i wanted to. I've also told him my many reasons why i don't want to (I'm moving, we could regret it, what are others going to think, etc.) I want to have sex but there is something telling me not to. I really like 'x', but I do not love him. I know I don't. But I do like him immensely. He wants to tell me he loves me, but I know its just going to be lust talking, but he wants to tell me in person which would mean a lot more then in a text right? I know he is not in this relationship for sex, but sometimes i feel like he is. Sex is all we talk about now. He tells me that sex will 'bond us' which is possibly will.
We are both virgins by the way
Another thing I am guilty for is joking around and talking about having sex with him sarcastically.
I also think his friends influence him. Two of our close friends have had sex many times with their girlfriends and they are very close and have very strong relationships. They have also been dating a long time.
We have condoms just in case..
Bottom line i just need help. any advice? please help because I don't have a best friend figure to talk to about this besides him, and I can't go to my mother.
Also if you think i shouldn't have sex with him how should i tell him no. I'm very honest with him when it comes to this because I know it is very important.