Repost: Please read my story! Serious answers only.. What should I do? (sex)?

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Okay... Ive been dating this guy for almost 2 months now. We're not an item but we're dating. We broke the rules & had sex a couple of weeks ago. Neither of us regret anything that's happened & our relationship over time has gotten much more serious. Well... He told me before we started dating that he had a lot of female friends. Some of them he grew up with & have known for years. I told him that it wouldn't be a problem because I too had male friends... But later I found out that he has like a million female friends. lol. Wasn't too sure I could deal with it then. About a week or so ago he had to go away for his job for 4 months. He's still away now but we communicate often & look forward to picking up where we left off in our relationship. I found out that before he left he had sex with one of his really close female friends. He said that it all happened so fast & that he realized some time after the fact that he wanted something serious with me. My thing is... even though we're not in a bf/gf relationship... Im not in the business of having sex with diff partners! & I guess I assumed he wasn't either. I was wrong obviously! Nevertheless... he truthfully told me what happened & to make a long story short I agreed to start fresh with him. This is the thing... He still communicates with this female he had sex with because he says she's still a close friend and has been since his high school days or something. I understand that they're friendship exceeds me & his relationship. He still has pics up of him & her on his website that were taken before they had sex. I made him take one of them down but there are others. She still leaves him messages. And Im assuming they will still be good friends. So Im just wondering... Am I jumping the gun here. I want to be fair in this situation but also I don't want to be a fool. Just wanna hear diff point of views! Thanks for listening!
We're not in love. Just dating as of now!
 
No you are not jumping the gun, just follow your heart, but don't be no fool either, if he has all of these females friends that he calls friends. and is having sex with them, what you need to do is just be his friend not his sex partner, but just his friend. you do not know who and are what he is sleeping with. and iam sure you do not want to contact and std from this guy. so use your best judgement. as yourself he is really worth it. as you astated you are not the type that just sleeps around. so there you have your answer right there. just be his friend without having sex with him. beside if he is away chances are he is having someone where he is now. so be smart and do the right thing. because it seems like he is not going to give up his females friends for you. so just focus your time on someone that is deservining of you. you deserve much better then him as your friend. god bless
 
I would say, leave him because if it happened once, it could always happen again and if you don't leave him and it happens again he'll just repeat everything he said about "it all happened so fast" and ways to make it seem like it was a big mistake. or you could also tell him that you are uncomfortable with him and his female friend, and if he doesn't change his ways, you'll have to leave him, and if he really loves and cares for you, he will do what's best for your relationship
 
It could be possible that there is more to the friendship between your guy and this female friend of his.

VIVA LA RAZA!
 
You're a booty call. I bet all those other girls are getting played the same exact way you are.

You can do better than him.

Good luck :)
 
Lay down the rules.

1. If he loves you, he won't talk to them unless you're around and you will monitor him.

2.If he has a problem with that, then he's gone.

3. If he loves you, he'll want to be with you and you only as much as possible.

4. Don't let him lie to you, make sure he's telling the truth. Talk to him as much as possible and get to learn his lying quirks.
 
Pretty confusing, you are not bf/gf but you are dating. So, you have no exclusive arrangement with each other about not seeing anyone else. What is your problem? Why shouldn't he still have contact with one of his friends? He had sex with you and still is in "contact" with you isn't he? You don't want to have sex with anyone else, fine, then don't. However, unless you are married or have some other monogamous commitment, there is no reason he cannot.
 
girlll you are not jumping the gun at all . if he wants to be serious with you hes gotta drop his litttle hoes and commit to you . friends through highschool or not , once theres that physical connection it DOESNT go away , there will always be sexual tension between the 2. you gotta telll him drop her or you drop me , and if he chooses her , well - he wouldnt be a good serious boyfriend anyway .gooood luckk hun & hope everything works ouut
 
Well I can see why you are upset about this but then again you guys aren't together. When he gets back you need to tell him that it upseted you that he had sex with his close friends and work it out to were that won't happen again. Also relax about the pics for now. When you two really start going out and hooking up then tell him he really needs to remove those pics.
 
wow honestly this sounds just like me!

He's a player

I've seriously come to the conclusion that you cant be "just friends with a guy" (personal experiencessss)

I assume you have feeling for him, but be realistic with your self, and dont miss out on oppurtunities for someone better to come along.

Forget him and dont be just another girl to him.
 
he sounds like a player you should discuss ur relationship status with him....and if you like him that much talk about becoming an "item". good luck :)
 
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