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Started dating this gentlemen 1 1/2 yrs ago, have known him and about his surgery year's ago. When we first met I was the first person to understand and we talked a lot about what his surgery had done to him, I told him alot of it was in his head and we had great sex, through using "The vac Pump" and shots and Viagra. Which didn't seem to bother him and not me. Now the sex is almost none, I ask him why and he says it hurts to go thru all of that and he gets nothing from it. I have told him it's not all about the sex, but he draws back now from touching, kissing, all intimacy. it is hard being around someone you can't touch and I'm sure he draws back because he feels it can go no where. I can't seem to get it tthru his head, it's just part of being with someone, touching, hugging ,kissing, nothing more. Any suggestions for this man.
Started dating this gentlemen 1 1/2 yrs ago, have known him and about his surgery year's ago. When we first met I was the first person to understand and we talked a lot about what his surgery had done to him, I told him alot of it was in his head and we had great sex, through using "The vac Pump" and shots and Viagra. Which didn't seem to bother him and not me. Now the sex is almost none, I ask him why and he says it hurts to go thru all of that and he gets nothing from it. I have told him it's not all about the sex, but he draws back now from touching, kissing, all intimacy. it is hard being around someone you can't touch and I'm sure he draws back because he feels it can go no where. I can't seem to get it tthru his head, it's just part of being with someone, touching, hugging ,kissing, nothing more. Any suggestions for this man.