So after 40 minutes, I get fed up, and I go to bed, and lay down and cover up because it's freezing, she just stands up and walks out of the room with her phone for a few minutes, comes back, and i confont her about it and ask her who was she talking to, she says her mom, then her friend, not the same one as the guy; I get frustrated because I knew she was lying and told her I already knew, and she swears she wasn't talking to who I said she was, she gets so pissed she grabs her blanket and phone and threatens to sleep in the living room, I explained to her how I knew who she was talking to and she tells me she lied to me because she knew I hated him, and I asked her how she could lie to my face and not feel guilty, she says she's sorry for lying to me, but not for talking to him. qouted, and tells me how I need to let her have this one thing, and he never did anything wrong to her, and it's my problem that we don't get along, i try to explain, like i have many times before that I never did anything wrong to this guy but he just goes out of his way to fuck with my life, she just keeps telling me how it's her friend and i can't force her to stop talking to him. and she still does talk to him, I tried asking nicely to just please stop, and i'd do anything for her, or that we could compromise and I could get her to talk to these other two friends we haven't talked to in a few months, and she could "replace" him with them. still no, I explain how it's literally hurting me and she doesn't seem to care about my feelings, she says all they talk about is dramatic stuff she needs to rant about, I knew that already, I don't have the slightest thought that she might be cheating on me or anything, but she still tells me to "trust her", when she's lied to me in the first place.
That's about it. I'm still extremely sorry for how long all of this was, i wanted to explain everything
I'd really like some replies, even for both sides, I'm a very open minded and considerative person, I look at her side of things too and still don't feel it's right.
I'd like to get alot of replies to show her i'm not being unresonable :/ or maybe to shut me up and settle my stomach because maybe I am wrong, I just need other people to tell me that.
two additional details i forgot to add, and don't want to backtrack and add, this guy confessed to her he lied before, and said his reason for doing so was because he had feelings for her. a 16 year old girl at the time, and a late 20's guy. and he couldn't stand 'seeing her with me', and she used to lecture me how she cant stand people who don't act like an adult, and told me i should just walk away from him when he starts shit with me and be the bigger man.
lastly, I rely on her quite alot, I have trouble doing shit on my own, I don't go out, I hate working, but she pushes me to do those positive things for myself, on top of that, I'd say I'm not the most attractive guy, I've had two girlfriends previous to her, cheated on by them every time too. and they weren't the greatest looking either, but she has had guys lined up to date her, her whole life.
That's about it. I'm still extremely sorry for how long all of this was, i wanted to explain everything
I'd really like some replies, even for both sides, I'm a very open minded and considerative person, I look at her side of things too and still don't feel it's right.
I'd like to get alot of replies to show her i'm not being unresonable :/ or maybe to shut me up and settle my stomach because maybe I am wrong, I just need other people to tell me that.
two additional details i forgot to add, and don't want to backtrack and add, this guy confessed to her he lied before, and said his reason for doing so was because he had feelings for her. a 16 year old girl at the time, and a late 20's guy. and he couldn't stand 'seeing her with me', and she used to lecture me how she cant stand people who don't act like an adult, and told me i should just walk away from him when he starts shit with me and be the bigger man.
lastly, I rely on her quite alot, I have trouble doing shit on my own, I don't go out, I hate working, but she pushes me to do those positive things for myself, on top of that, I'd say I'm not the most attractive guy, I've had two girlfriends previous to her, cheated on by them every time too. and they weren't the greatest looking either, but she has had guys lined up to date her, her whole life.