Crazy for Cavies
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My husband is being very pigheaded at the moment. He has to go in for open hernia operation tomorrow, its hopefully just day surgery if all goes well, although its in the afternoon so slight possibility of an overnight stay. In the leaflets that he has been given it says to not to return to a desk job for 2-4 weeks, and manual work for 6 weeks, his job is sort of inbetween .. he works in a hydraulic wholesalers, so receives deliveries from suppliers, packs up customer deliveries, prepares hose assemblies for customers, and other times sits at a desk quoting customers etc etc, anyway to cut the story short, he is telling his work he'll be back this Monday!!! I think he is crazy, he has never had surgery or an anaesthetic before, he just doesn't know how he'll feel and I am so worried about him, and then last night to top it all off he comes home telling me that in a week's time his boss wants him to do a job 290 miles away from home, which will entail a 7-8 hour drive, (if traffic is ok), do the work, stay overnight in a hotel and then do the drive back next day, and to my disbelief he told his boss he will do it and to go ahead and book it all up - I went up the wall, I can't believe he is even contemplating going back to work so soon, never mind going to a job which involves a nearly 600 mile round trip a week after surgery, he says he won't be driving, which I'm not sure is true but would be illegal to drive so soon after surgery anyhow even though he thinks he will be driving to work next week, he says his colleague will drive but I somehow can't see him driving all that way both days, and he isn't exactly sympathetic as still doesn't help my husband carrying heavy stuff even though he knows about the hernia, but am I right in thinking there is still the risk of DVT as a passenger and this is raised after surgery and the discomfort he'll feel travelling all that way and the general effect on his health trying to still recover from surgery. I don't know what to do about it, I am a worrier and really don't think he should go and I don't think his boss really knows what he is having done at hospital tomorrow he knows he is in for some treatment but thats it, I'm almost tempted to ring his boss myself and tell him so he is aware, but I know my husband would never forgive me, he won't listen to me and I just don't know what to do, I didn't sleep a wink last night as he slept on sofa after the row and I just couldn't sleep thinking about it all. Any advice would be most appreciated.