Recovering Opiate Addict ~ 18 yrs old

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Jess9291 Thanks for replying to my thread. I agree with everyone and you must concentrate on yourself right now. You are still very young and if he does not realize what he has let go believe me he will one day, when he see's that you beat this addiction and that you have moved on and found someone that really loves and cares for you the way you should be loved and cared for. Don't give up and don't forget we are all here with you to get through this
 
Hi everybody,

I'm new to this forum and I really need someone to talk to. I'm 3 weeks clean from Oxycodone and things just keep going wrong in my life. In the past month and a half, i crashed two cars, got arrested, possibly expelled from college, and to top it all of, me and my boyfriend quit oxy's together at the end of October. We've both been doing outpatient treatment with Suboxone and attending NA meetings together. Out of the blue, on the day I got arrested (Thursday), he broke up with me because he's confused and depressed.

I'm just posting to see if anyone's gonna reply, lol. Any help anyone can offer is really appreciated.
 
Obviously, you are doing the RIGHT thing and he is doing the wrong thing. He seems to be pretty self-absorbed right now. He is going to regret this for the rest of his life. You are a good person and you deserve to be treated well. I can't imagine going through what you are right now, but do try and think of yourself. As someone else said, you are going to get better, and once you do, you will be able to deal with this guy better. You watch, he will come back to you, and then you are going to have to decide if you want him back. You are going to have to decide if he is a healthy person for you. I wish you all the best and have a good day!!
 
You guys are so amazingly nice I can't even believe it. I've been attending daily NA meetings and the support I feel here reminRAB me of the support there. THANK YOU!!

Littleblue-- I tried to respond to your post and somebody told me I wasn't being supportive??? IDK what happened but please know that I was being supportive and whatever I said wrong was completely unintentional..

I've started to see my boyfriend at NA meetings and it's weird as hell. He wasn't there over the weekend because of his work schedule but he's been there since Sunday. I guess things are getting better...he apologized for everything but we are still VERY broken up.

How is everybody else
 
You know, I am new to this board today and I am shocked at the awareness and support here because like you, I am currently having struggles and kinda felt alone in it. Often couples dont make it rehabing together because it adRAB so much extra stress. He may well come back after all is said and done, but you are obviously a very strong young lady and from way up north Im pulling and praying for you regardless of your beliefs. Hang in there and keep us posted. I think many people reading your story are very very proud of you. I am! Keep smiling....Don't wait for pills to make you better, make yourself better!!!!!! Mind over Body.
 
wow - thats bad!

But lets face it - theres not more that can go wrong from here! ;)
The main thing is that you've made the best decision in your life so far quitting the opiates. Things will get a lot better from here on in.

I'll post you something later/tomorrow - as ive got a crying baby to attend to :)

hang in there
 
god i just dont feel like i can!!!! i feel like evrything good in my life is gone. i was in a very serious relationship and now hes rebounding with my ex best friend and having the nerve to call it not a rebound. haha its the very definition of a rebound but ahhhh im going crazyy
 
Get clean - then he'll see what he's missing. but by then you'll have found a new, better man who REALLY loves you. I know its hard (and easy for me to say) but - try and find the silver lining in the cloud (i know you have a lot of clouRAB at the moment - but hey - there must be plenty of silver lining them! ;))


take care
 
Hi Jess,

SounRAB like, despite the problems that life throws you, you're taking control, and that's fantastic. Stick with it and things will get better.

I don't know your situation, but you might consider tapering the suboxone (talk with your doc first!). The longer you take it, the harder it is to quit. It's a good med to help with the acute w/d from oxy, but seems better short term.

Best Wishes,

Raz
 
hey, just wanted to say i can kinda relate to what's going on with you.. i've been clean 6 days now.. the past three years NO one but myself and where I got stuff from knew about what was going on.. I told my best friend of the past 14years about what's been going on so he says "i want nothing to do with drug addicts." Then I tell my gf of the past almost two years about it and we're pretty much done and over with now cause she just doesn't understand what its like. she just thinks its something easy to get over, and pretty much hates me cause i've lied about it for so long.. which i understand but my point is it doesnt make things any easier. but i guess what im trying to say is that no matter what life throws at you going back to pills wont make things any better! You just gotta be as strong as you can be and make it thru this. your only 18 you've got a long life ahead of you just as long as you stay away from those things! im 24 and they;ve ran my life the past 4yrs so just stay strong and keep your head up. the grass is sooo much greener on the other side! if you can make it thru this you can make it thru anything! this site has helped me alot with the moral suport i couldnt get else-where so we're hear for ya! I wish you the best of luck and hope things work out for the best for you! sorry for rarabling (bad night).. but keep your head up! you can do it!
 
thank you for your replies. im very depressed right now and its nice to hear kind worRAB. i just feel like the bad news keeps on coming

i hope to taper from the suboxone soon. i started at 12 mg and tapered to 6 so it will hopefully happen soon.
 
jess9291,

I can't believe I didn't see your thread until today! HOLY SMOKES GIRL... That is a heavy load you are carrying. I feel so bad for you!!! 18 years old.. this addiction and relationship problems.. Well, here is the deal. You have been dealt a really hard hand but you CAN beat all of this and come out on the other side a healthy, strong, beautiful woman! I believe in you! Stick around here and you will find lots of support from everyone... This place has been a goRABend for me!

How are you doing today? I am thinking of you and hope you are hanging in there... I just keep thinking.. 18 years old..... You are GOING to beat this!

Well, please give us an update!
~Secrets
 
Hey There Jess

Honey, keep the focus on the recovery and put all other issues on hold.

It is often hard to see the blessings when we are struggling to find recovery.... however, recovery must be a time of total focus on the self. We must be selfish in that all of the concentration must go to work through the withdrawal and find a new and restored mind and body.

I am 57 and married with a family that I love with all my heart. However, as I went through my own struggles to stop using Oxycodone and Xanax, even those dearest to my heart had to be put on hold. I had to go into survival mode and nothing, and I mean nothing, could interfere with that. It was a time in life when selfish was a good word, a necessary word. It is hard enough to deal with without extra emotional baggage getting in the way. Put all aspects of the relationship on hold. There will be time to figure it all out when the haze of drugs no longer controls the body and mind.

Stay strong... you are a wothwhile young woman and when the path becomes less foggy again, you wiull see that all things worthwhile will come to you.

God bless
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It really means a lot to me that you guys are responding to my post. I've spent this weekend feeling completely alone. I want to focus on myself but its just soo damn hard!! I completely understand that I need to focus on my recovery without him. Admittedly that's a lil hard to do when he's out there going after another girl but I found more about it and my friend isn't interested at all. It's him trying to find happiness now and him trying to hurt me. I just dont get why he doesnt realize he shouldn't be involved with ANYONE while we are in recovery not just me... Am I totally wrong for thinking that??? It's the most unhealthy thing in the world for him to be with her. I'm just looking forward to when he realizes his happiness isn't gunna come from one person, you know?
 
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