by her. What do I do? I know that I'm divorcing him (that WILL happen). But what are my options?
I recently had to get into his email for some information and came across a big surprise. Iread some emails and found out that he had an affair with another SSG while deployed in Iraq last time he was there (they were in the same unit). They continued to see each other when they returned home. She was married, but my husband got her pregnant before she got divorced. He also has 100s of pictures of this child, the kid looks just like him, no question, it IS his (and the emails also back that up). We moved from our base to another one before the baby was born. He has been keeping this a secret from me. The kid was born April 2008. Currently he is deployed in Afghanistan. He doesn't know that I know about his affair or that he has a son by here (yet). As far as I know, he doesn't keep in touch w/her anymore (last email between them was a year ago) and I know for a fact that he doesn't pay her child suport (I see LES's and know exactly what comes in/out of the checking acct). If he is keeping in contact, he's using a different email address.
What are my options? Can he be in trouble with the Army? Would they even do anything to him? We've been marrie for 5 years. Would the Army or courts give me anything? I don't want the house, we don't have debt (other than the house). Could I get alimony?
What steps should I take? Who should I contact???
How do I contact his chain of command when he's deployed ... without him knowing what I'm up to at first??? Right now he's in Afghanistan.
I recently had to get into his email for some information and came across a big surprise. Iread some emails and found out that he had an affair with another SSG while deployed in Iraq last time he was there (they were in the same unit). They continued to see each other when they returned home. She was married, but my husband got her pregnant before she got divorced. He also has 100s of pictures of this child, the kid looks just like him, no question, it IS his (and the emails also back that up). We moved from our base to another one before the baby was born. He has been keeping this a secret from me. The kid was born April 2008. Currently he is deployed in Afghanistan. He doesn't know that I know about his affair or that he has a son by here (yet). As far as I know, he doesn't keep in touch w/her anymore (last email between them was a year ago) and I know for a fact that he doesn't pay her child suport (I see LES's and know exactly what comes in/out of the checking acct). If he is keeping in contact, he's using a different email address.
What are my options? Can he be in trouble with the Army? Would they even do anything to him? We've been marrie for 5 years. Would the Army or courts give me anything? I don't want the house, we don't have debt (other than the house). Could I get alimony?
What steps should I take? Who should I contact???
How do I contact his chain of command when he's deployed ... without him knowing what I'm up to at first??? Right now he's in Afghanistan.