ok so i was dating this guy for 9 months... we were both madly in love. i was his first love. it has always been his dream to be in the US Marine Corp. I have always supported this dream. About a month ago I left for college. About a month ago we also broke up. He told me that he didn't want to be with anyone while in the Marines. I understood the best I could and accepted that. He wrote me a letter saying that he would always love me and that I was the only person that he had ever made love to and that he still wanted a future with me, once he was out of the Marines. I wrote him a VERY heartfelt letter and mailed it to him on the day i left for college. It bascially said that I would always care for him and would always be supporting him and that at one point i had wanted to marry him and that i knew he would hookup with other people but when he was ready to be LOVED again, i would be there. Anyways I found out the next day that he had already hooked up with someone. I did not say anything and cut off all contact to give myself time/space. In the meantime I started talking to one of my guy friends. Well like last week one of my friends told me that he changed his facebook status to say that he was in a relationship with her. Not going to lie... this pissed me off considering that he told me he did not want a serious girlfriend while in the Marines. So I texted him basically saying that I knew he was with her and I was happy for him and that i just found it really disrespectful that he lied to me and wished that he had not. He texted me back and after about 2 hours of texting back and forth about just random stuff (during this time i found out that he would be leaving for boot earlier than expected..monday (aka. yesturday)) he asked me why I never told him in person that i wanted to marry him. It kind of caught me off guard but i told him that basically i did not want to scare him because the thought of knowing something like that and feeling that way kind of scared me. He then proceeded to tell me that he was not over me. He told me that he was not in love with that girl it was just dating and he never wanted it to hurt me. Anyways about 3 days later (on Sunday) I called him just to say bye before he left for boot and he told me that he would write and that he would like it if I could come and visit him. I started to feel like everything would be ok with us, maybe not now, but sometime down the road. The very next morning I checked his facebook honestly just to look through old pictures and i saw that the girl that he is "dating" had posted something on his wall saying "you are the best... annnnd i will always love you to... i would have been all cute like you and said it in french but i can't." I was absolutely shocked by this. I don't know what to think now. I was thinking maybe he just said that to her because he was leaving the next day. They have only been "together" (hooking up) for a month and she lives in a different state... Should I continue to write him while he is in boot, just as a friend? Does he still want a future with me? He left yesterday and I will not be able to see him until early December. What should I do? I still love him..
Any advice at all would be really helpful...
Any advice at all would be really helpful...