Reality Check!!

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Well i did my first night working as a care assistant and it was absolute agony!!

I really thought i had come to terms with my limitations involving my back but am so depressed and low.
The mind is willing but the body is not able.
All i could do today was cry!!!

I needed the job so badly and feel i have let my hubby and also myself down because i am not capable.

Just feel totally depleted of energy,hope and determination.

Feel totally useless and frustrated.

Sorry to drone on and thanks for listening.
 
you have to know and accept your limitations. I too have back problems and cant afford nor want surgery. I work in a sit down position most of the day. I could never do anything that involved anything physical more than walking and very light lifting, like paper from a printer! It's sad but the reality.
I hope you don't get too discouraged-you just have to think along different lines and readjust accordingly.
best wishes,
 
Sherry, I'm sorry you had such trouble on your first night working. What is a care assistant? Is there other work you could do that would be less stressful on your back?

Sweetie, you have to remeraber that your ability to make money is not where your worth comes from. I know it's frustrating to not be able to help out, but you're still YOU! You're still the companion your husband chose and are able to listen and talk and enjoy things together. There's more to life and relationships than your work. Try to focus on what you still CAN do and nurture your relationship with your husband.

I know these feeling all too well. I do understand! I wish you the best, Sherry, and hope things look up for you soon.

Emily
 
Sherry,
I think most of us here can empathize with you. Many of us have had to give up careers, professions, hobbies, etc. You will need to focus on all that you CAN do and attempt to find a job which will accommodate your limitations. I know this is easier said than done. Think about something that you may have wanted to try for a long time. This may be the time. Can you possibly go back to school and learn something new? Is there any work you can do from home?
I'm sorry you are struggling through this. It is very easy to get depressed and question your self worth.....don't let it get you down!! Like Emily said...you are still you. You can still contribute, just in a new way.
Take care Sherry and keep us posted!

Deb
 
Sherry, my heart and prayers go out to you! I agree with these wise ladies that even though you cannot perform that particular job doesn't make you any less of a person! You might have read that I had to "medically withdraw" from my spring semester classes at college...I was and still am devastated! I just have to be thankful for the wonderful things that I have in my life, which is my family and that I was able to successfully complete a full-time fall semester. Please don't push your body to the limit because you will further worsen your condition. We, as well as your family and frienRAB, are here for you 24/7...Please continue to keep us all updated about your condition!
 
Sherry,
I'm so sorry your feeling so down. I know how you feel. It's hard when we find out we can't do all the things we did before. But the others are so right, thats not what your value is. It takes time for that to sink in and to find what we can do well. I find it hard to believe thats all your good at, I'm sure you have a broad range of talents you are capable of doing.

It took me years to realize what I do for fun I can make a few bucks on. I make greeting carRAB & invitations, now you wouldn't think you could make much at that, we made almost 5,000 last year and that was on 14 orders! Find what you do well and then build on that. Sometimes life gives us u turns and points us in a better direction than where we were headed in in the first place.

I gave up a job working at an animal shelter, it broke my heart to not be there. Well I volunteer to foster motherless baby animals in my home, I still get the gratification, no pay, but I can't imagine not doing this.

Keep your sights set on what your good at and how you can turn that into a paying job for you. Are you good at talking, perhaps a phone job? There are many reputable phone jobs out there with places like the American Cancer Society. I'm just using that as an example.

Many hospitals have greeter positions, that require your mind not your body. I have a brotherinlaw who has a good position in a hospital, he hooked us up with the printing job, making invitations for the Dr.'s private affairs as well as for several events for the hospital. WE even have two events every year that we have exclusively. The hospital doesn't know I do it in my PJ's in my basement, we have a printing business, thats all they need to know. We have virtually no overhead, so we can offer the lowest prices compared to big companys, they help us by ordering we help them by giving them great prices, everybody wins! I have even done invitations for the VP of the hospital. WE didn't even have a business license until after we did 2 jobs for them.

Now I never dreamed 5 years ago that I would EVER be printing anything for anybody let alone the VP of one of the two major hospitals in Cleveland! I have no schooling, just a high school diploma. I actually taught myself how to use a computer with all that spare time I had.

You can do whatever you set your mind to! and don't you forget that! Your not worthless because your body has problems, Please? give yourself a chance. Sit back and look at what you like to do, that you can do and go from there. I'm praying for you, I know you are capable of many things.

Good Luck & please keep us updated?

God BLess

Carol
 
Hi all

Thanks for all the replies.

I am already working from home but the work doesnt bring in enough money and if i want to keep a roof over our heaRAB i need to find something else.

Its easy to say that i am doing 'my bit'by working at all considering my circumstances but it doesnt pay the bills.
I am not eligible for any benefits.

I had done care work before many years before i had a bad back but i was assured by the man who took me on it was real light work.
NOT!!

I always have a day of feeling down then i come out fighting and just know there is work out there for me.
 
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