Luna Lovegood
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please no judgement or anything on this question****
I'm a 16 year old girl and a virgin. I know most adults think that 16 is incredibly young to be having sex, but let's be honest, a lot of kids around this age are having sex and it is immense pressure when that includes everyone else in your social group except for you and a few select others. Obviously, I have been taught from a young age to stand up to peer pressure and only do things that I am comfortable with. However it's gotten to the point where it doesn't even feel like peer pressure anymore, I want to have sex. Granted, I still have self respect and morals, I don't want to just have sex with some random guy, but I'm hardly looking for my future husband. Does anyone else feel like their virginity is kind of a curse? I feel bad saying that, but at times it feels like it. Also, one of the biggest reasons I haven't had sex yet is because I'm incredibly self conscious. I think it is normal, but still I sometimes feel like no one else feels the same way. Statistically speaking I'm pretty "normal"; 5'5'', 110 lb, 'pretty face'....nothing abnormal to speak of, but I'm very self conscious of little things (that I won't get at on here). I can't imagine being naked in front of anyone else because I feel like that would be judging/criticizing me the whole time. I'm terrified of being physically vulnerable and even more so emotionally vulnerable and letting them know what I was thinking and feeling, especially because I'm such an awkward/introverted person. So, does it really make a difference if I wait for someone who I'm in love with and in a trusting relationship? What if they're not a virgin, would they be understanding? I feel kind of prudish because I've only ever kissed a guy, I've never properly made out and yet I think my circle of friend think I'm at least a little experienced....
Anyways, I'm not positive exactly what I'm asking. I just need to know that I'm not the only one dealing with these issues. Anything you'd like to share would be helpful whether you're a virgin or not, whether you're a female or a male. Thanks
I'm a 16 year old girl and a virgin. I know most adults think that 16 is incredibly young to be having sex, but let's be honest, a lot of kids around this age are having sex and it is immense pressure when that includes everyone else in your social group except for you and a few select others. Obviously, I have been taught from a young age to stand up to peer pressure and only do things that I am comfortable with. However it's gotten to the point where it doesn't even feel like peer pressure anymore, I want to have sex. Granted, I still have self respect and morals, I don't want to just have sex with some random guy, but I'm hardly looking for my future husband. Does anyone else feel like their virginity is kind of a curse? I feel bad saying that, but at times it feels like it. Also, one of the biggest reasons I haven't had sex yet is because I'm incredibly self conscious. I think it is normal, but still I sometimes feel like no one else feels the same way. Statistically speaking I'm pretty "normal"; 5'5'', 110 lb, 'pretty face'....nothing abnormal to speak of, but I'm very self conscious of little things (that I won't get at on here). I can't imagine being naked in front of anyone else because I feel like that would be judging/criticizing me the whole time. I'm terrified of being physically vulnerable and even more so emotionally vulnerable and letting them know what I was thinking and feeling, especially because I'm such an awkward/introverted person. So, does it really make a difference if I wait for someone who I'm in love with and in a trusting relationship? What if they're not a virgin, would they be understanding? I feel kind of prudish because I've only ever kissed a guy, I've never properly made out and yet I think my circle of friend think I'm at least a little experienced....
Anyways, I'm not positive exactly what I'm asking. I just need to know that I'm not the only one dealing with these issues. Anything you'd like to share would be helpful whether you're a virgin or not, whether you're a female or a male. Thanks