Question for queers...based on your observations...?

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Alejandra

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be who want to be you don't have to fall in any kind of culture, and its like you said its more acceptable you can be who want to be. (im not a lesbian or anything like that but had plenty of experience in my days). it just goes for any culture group etc...just be you and everything will follow suit and you'll have more fun and be more at peace with yourself... basically make your own group sort of speak
hope this helps:)
 
Sometimes I feel like the 'L' part of 'LGBT' is not included in the large majority of topics that relate to LGBT. Is it just me or is there a disparity in the representation of lesbians in the Gay Community?


I feel like there is more discrimination against lesbians (WITHIN THE LGBT community, not with straight culture. I get it that lesbians are sort of accepted in straight culture, I don't care about that much) than there is against gay men in that lesbians are somewhat ignored and haven't really formed a culture. It's been sort of plaguing me for the past week and I've realized that lesbian women are sort of absorbed into normative culture.


How many lesbians actually WANT to participate actively in gay activities and in the gay community? I feel like if I did participate (when I was old enough, of course) I would be one of few...


What IS lesbian culture, if there is one? I don't want to be 'butch' and ride motorcycles or be a 'hick', which is what the stereotypes follow.


Basically give me your opinion
wow, how am I a troll? This is a serious question that has been bothering me for a really long time.
 
I agree with the poster who pointed out that you completely overlook how limited the roll of the Bs and Ts in LGBT can be. Lesbians have it easy compared to us bisexuals, though where I live, I really wouldn't say the lesbians have been absorbed into straight culture at all. Actually, there are many different groups of lesbians in the city I live, with something for just about everyone to be found. There is a group of lesbians who play sports (mostly various gay intramural leagues), lesbian who are more the butch biker type you reference, ones that like organic vegetarian foods and various crafts, hipster lesbians, a group who are really into the burlesque/drag scene, another group that are more femme and like cocktails and dinner parties with the gay boys, a group of non-athletic tomboy types who hang out at hole in the wall bars and house parties, and a group of serious activists (who tend to hang with the gay boy activists fairly often). I don't know that there's a cohesive lesbian culture, because lesbians are as diverse as straight people, but lesbians definitely aren't blending into straight culture where I live either.
 
Funny, how in your question about erasure you erase bisexual and transgender/transsexual people from the get go. Sigh.

In my experience, cis lesbians tend to be over represented on the boards of organizations, not underrepresented, though cis gay men do tend to rank pretty close. I have seen some pretty cliquey lesbian cultures in my day as well, and I am not that old. Still, even if you are in an area where butch-femme models dominate, the femme side of that is around, fyi.
 
I know plenty of lesbians who are very active in the gay community. Plenty! I know tons of amazing women who have helped out so much of the gay youth around here, including myself.
I would say they were definitely included. Lesbians don't have it easier then anyone else in our community. We're all minorities here and we've all been discriminated against. Sometimes, it's just not by the same types of people.
It's very wrong to say they're absorbed into "normative" culture. I mean, what's normal? Are you suggesting heterosexuality is the normal sexuality? Do you mean common society? I'd argue that gays are similar to straights and everyone has their own personality. You fit in where you fit in.
But lesbians do have a little community on their own too! :D I mean, haven't you seen The L World? (;
 
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