for best answer)? Alright this is going to be kind of long, but I would appreciate if you read all of it before answering.
So back in high school I knew this girl named Marissa. She always had a crush on me but never told me until 10th grade. Which was 2005? I am the musician type, I write music and poetry and generally keep to myself but at this time I had a little Group of friends that were very judgmental and I very stupidly allowed myself to base many of my high school decisions on how they would react. One day Marissa wrote me a letter, in the letter she told me that she thought I was very handsome and seemed like a really interesting person with whom she would like to get to know better. Upon reading the letter I actually got kind of excited because I thought she was pretty cute and I had always thought to myself I should really get to know her better. But with that thought came the fear of what my friends (at the time) might think, because she did not fit in their stupid little criteria so I handled the situation by simply just letting it dissipate away. A few weeks went by and I never contacted Marissa to let her know either way how I felt. I know this hurt her feelings, because one day I was walking in the hallway headed towards the gym and I will never forget this in the rest of my days. I crossed path's with her in the hallway and she looked at me, and it was almost as if her facial expression said...You really hurt me, Your not the person I thought you were. I felt like shitt forever after that.
The years went by, I ditched the idiot friends, Her and I moved on with our lives, dated other people and for the most part just forgot about each other. Until recently, I was cleaning out one of my old backpacks from high school and I found the note she had written me folded and tucked neatly in one of the inner pockets. I read threw it, and I relived the whole ordeal in those few seconds. And now, with 5 years between now and then, I have had much time to grow up and I realized what an a's'shole move it was of me to neglect her that way back then. At the bottom of the note she had written her phone number down and asked me to call her. So I thought what the hell, and in the heat of the moment I called the number and low and behold she answered! I went on to refresh her memory or what had happened between us and I told her how deeply sorry I was for handling the situation so poorly. She accepted my apology and had a sense of humor about the fact that this happened like this.
So while on the phone with her I said...Well how about we go see a movie and grab a bite to eat? We can catch up and all that good stuff. She said that would be wonderful. (In passing I did find out that she is currently single). So we set a date and time. And that day rolled around, I woke up early, got cleaned up real nice and was on my way out the door to head to her apartment when she call's me and say's that some of her friends have shown up unexpectedly and she would need to reschedule the date for another time. I was a little hurt. But I thought oh well, at least the playing field is even now, she has done to me what I had done to her all those years ago.
So I let it go and we set up another date and time for us to go out. Well that day rolls around and I get a call from her once again just as I'm on my way out the door to go pick her up. This time she tells me that her work has called her and she has to work late tonight and we would have to do it another time. I accepted this just fine, I know people have to work for a living I certainly do and work is a completely plausible excuse to have to cancel a date.
So we planned for a third date, this time it really seemed for real. We planned the date several weeks prior. During those weeks we talked about it some and she seemed very excited about it, as was I.
Our date was planned for Tomorrow...(Wednesday)....She calls me late Monday night say's that she promise's she not trying to ditch me but she has rehearsal for a friends wedding on Wed at 5pm and she will be unable to go on the date with me. She then went on to tell me that she was very sorry and that we could make plans for another if I wanted to, but she would understand if I didn't. I was very polite even though a little pissed off. I told her that it was ok and we can plan for another time but next time I wanted her to set the date and not me.
My issue now is, after three tries, I’m trying to figure out if going on a date with me really matters much at all to her? I am also wondering if she was truthful about having to go to work of if she just got cold feet at the last minute.
My questions are.
#1 - Could she have gotten cold feet and/or just not really know what she wants?
#2 - Is she still mad at me about what happened in the past and just trying to hurt me?
#3 - Could I really just be over thinking it all?
#4 - Should I continue to try and set something up?
Th
So back in high school I knew this girl named Marissa. She always had a crush on me but never told me until 10th grade. Which was 2005? I am the musician type, I write music and poetry and generally keep to myself but at this time I had a little Group of friends that were very judgmental and I very stupidly allowed myself to base many of my high school decisions on how they would react. One day Marissa wrote me a letter, in the letter she told me that she thought I was very handsome and seemed like a really interesting person with whom she would like to get to know better. Upon reading the letter I actually got kind of excited because I thought she was pretty cute and I had always thought to myself I should really get to know her better. But with that thought came the fear of what my friends (at the time) might think, because she did not fit in their stupid little criteria so I handled the situation by simply just letting it dissipate away. A few weeks went by and I never contacted Marissa to let her know either way how I felt. I know this hurt her feelings, because one day I was walking in the hallway headed towards the gym and I will never forget this in the rest of my days. I crossed path's with her in the hallway and she looked at me, and it was almost as if her facial expression said...You really hurt me, Your not the person I thought you were. I felt like shitt forever after that.
The years went by, I ditched the idiot friends, Her and I moved on with our lives, dated other people and for the most part just forgot about each other. Until recently, I was cleaning out one of my old backpacks from high school and I found the note she had written me folded and tucked neatly in one of the inner pockets. I read threw it, and I relived the whole ordeal in those few seconds. And now, with 5 years between now and then, I have had much time to grow up and I realized what an a's'shole move it was of me to neglect her that way back then. At the bottom of the note she had written her phone number down and asked me to call her. So I thought what the hell, and in the heat of the moment I called the number and low and behold she answered! I went on to refresh her memory or what had happened between us and I told her how deeply sorry I was for handling the situation so poorly. She accepted my apology and had a sense of humor about the fact that this happened like this.
So while on the phone with her I said...Well how about we go see a movie and grab a bite to eat? We can catch up and all that good stuff. She said that would be wonderful. (In passing I did find out that she is currently single). So we set a date and time. And that day rolled around, I woke up early, got cleaned up real nice and was on my way out the door to head to her apartment when she call's me and say's that some of her friends have shown up unexpectedly and she would need to reschedule the date for another time. I was a little hurt. But I thought oh well, at least the playing field is even now, she has done to me what I had done to her all those years ago.
So I let it go and we set up another date and time for us to go out. Well that day rolls around and I get a call from her once again just as I'm on my way out the door to go pick her up. This time she tells me that her work has called her and she has to work late tonight and we would have to do it another time. I accepted this just fine, I know people have to work for a living I certainly do and work is a completely plausible excuse to have to cancel a date.
So we planned for a third date, this time it really seemed for real. We planned the date several weeks prior. During those weeks we talked about it some and she seemed very excited about it, as was I.
Our date was planned for Tomorrow...(Wednesday)....She calls me late Monday night say's that she promise's she not trying to ditch me but she has rehearsal for a friends wedding on Wed at 5pm and she will be unable to go on the date with me. She then went on to tell me that she was very sorry and that we could make plans for another if I wanted to, but she would understand if I didn't. I was very polite even though a little pissed off. I told her that it was ok and we can plan for another time but next time I wanted her to set the date and not me.
My issue now is, after three tries, I’m trying to figure out if going on a date with me really matters much at all to her? I am also wondering if she was truthful about having to go to work of if she just got cold feet at the last minute.
My questions are.
#1 - Could she have gotten cold feet and/or just not really know what she wants?
#2 - Is she still mad at me about what happened in the past and just trying to hurt me?
#3 - Could I really just be over thinking it all?
#4 - Should I continue to try and set something up?
Th