im asian and my boyfriend is black.im a virgin who is new to this stuff.so we did a little foreplay and all.when he stuck his finger in, it hurt both the first time and second time and for the whole day.was it because he was rough and not gentle enough?if not then why?and when he stuck his penis in it hurt even more!it hurt so bad i was i said i cant do it.so am i still consider a virgin?and is it normal to have a funny smell even though all we did was foreplay?