5 year old step daughter just moved in with me and my bf of 5 years, and our infant. I am convinced she has ADHD. she does not obey us AT ALL and she is lying everyday. He day is spent doing anything in her power to make us mad. writing on the tv, writing on our furniture, waking the baby when she's asleep, constantly spilling food on purpose (she admits it was on purpose later), lying and saying the daycare provider is spanking her because she was angry that she was put in timeout, she stops up our sinks with toilet paper, she destroys her room minutes after I go clean it up, she writes all over her clothes, she is disruptive at daycare, ....it does not matter how many times we put her in time out, or how many toys we take from her, she continues to do these things. It also doesnt matter how much love and attention we show her, she still does everything bad....everyday. i just simply dont know what to do. when she goes out of town to visit her relatives, our home is ten times more quiet and peaceful. when she returns, all hell breaks loose. she walks around the house looking for something to mess up on a daily basis. two days ago she knocked over her dad's plate of food when he was on the phone talking. she later said, "I'm gonna be honest, i did it because i wanted to". This little girl is 5 years old and she is very cunning and she tries to con ppl all the time to get what she wants.
My biggest concern is my baby....she is so sneaky and jealous of her, im afraid she may try to hurt her. she teases wher with her pacifier when she thinks we're not looking ...i dont trust her. i try so hard to embrace her and she's pushing me away. i dont trust her with my baby, and the stress level in our home rises when she's present. anyone who babysit's her has complaints. i just dont know what to do. i dont want to seperate my baby from her dad, but the situation is driving me insane and i dont think i can take too much more. I feel for my bf too b/c he doesnt know what to do. she has even went as far as sitting between us on the couch if my bf shows me any sort of affection...she will try to move me over and then start saying "daddy, can i have a kiss"....she is very smart and i feel like im dealing with a teenager rather than a five year old. i dont even want to spank her b/c she is the type of kid that would get mad at you and go tell authorities you're abusing her....I just met her in October last year for the first time and she now lives with us and her behavior is impossible to deal with on a daily basis. advice please. no insults
My biggest concern is my baby....she is so sneaky and jealous of her, im afraid she may try to hurt her. she teases wher with her pacifier when she thinks we're not looking ...i dont trust her. i try so hard to embrace her and she's pushing me away. i dont trust her with my baby, and the stress level in our home rises when she's present. anyone who babysit's her has complaints. i just dont know what to do. i dont want to seperate my baby from her dad, but the situation is driving me insane and i dont think i can take too much more. I feel for my bf too b/c he doesnt know what to do. she has even went as far as sitting between us on the couch if my bf shows me any sort of affection...she will try to move me over and then start saying "daddy, can i have a kiss"....she is very smart and i feel like im dealing with a teenager rather than a five year old. i dont even want to spank her b/c she is the type of kid that would get mad at you and go tell authorities you're abusing her....I just met her in October last year for the first time and she now lives with us and her behavior is impossible to deal with on a daily basis. advice please. no insults