22 yrs old and 6 months pregnant and boyfriend is getting more and more abusive by the day. It is to the point I feel suicidal and like I am going crazy. I am not allowed a phone I have no car, no friends no nothing. I am supposed to stay home and clean and do my womanly duties. laundry, sex etc. Sometimes I sneak and use the internet. I really need to leave because I am fed up and need to protect my baby who is due in 3 months. He is very violent and I need to leave the state immediatly but dont know how. I have no friends and no money, I have been isolated and treated like a prisoner. How can I leave the state and where will i go. i dont know how I let this happend. plz no neg comments, only someone who can offer great advice so that I can be safe and unharmed with my baby. I am so deserate for change but I know he will find me if I stay in the state of nc
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pregnant and in abusive relashionship, want to leave?
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You need to leave. Its not healthy and I'm glad you have recognized that this is not how you should be treated. I think you should go to a pregnancy clinic where they have counselors and you can tell them what is going on so that they can help you.
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I understand what is happening to you. I have been in this situation. This is what I did. Leave pick up and go because this is not the life you were meant to have for you or your baby. First you know what he is doing is wrong and yes you are going crazy. He is an awhole and needs to be locked up and let dogs in jail take care of him. Call the cops put a report on him asap. Pick up and leave when he is at work no note or nothing. Go to a church shelter anywhere but there. Therapy is a good thing for you because you are going to think over and over of why did you leave oh he was not so bad blah blah blah.Again you are better than this. Pick up and leave put him in jail take pics of any bruises cuts so you have docs of the abusive person he is. GET OUT
I'm so, so sorry this is happening to you. No one deserves that kind of treatment. Obviously, you have your head on straight and realize that you need to get out right away. Contact some friends and family and let them know your plan. For example, if you're stuck and he's around and you need help immediately, create a code work, like "banana" to let the other person know you're in danger.
Does he work? Make a plan where you can wait until he goes to work and get out. Go to the police department, fill them in on all of the details. If you have any documented evidence (like journal entries or photos), this will help as well. They will be able to at least get you a restraining order and can also point you toward a shelter in your state or in another. There are actually a lot of shelters that no one knows about and are extremely hard to find, so that should ease some of your worries. Then you need to press charges. As I'm sure you're aware, not everyone obeys restraining orders, so do the maximum to keep him away from you.
Again, my heart is with you. Pleae remember, you are in no way to blame for this. It's not anything that you did or didn't do. You are an innocent victim and nothing else. It sickens me when people blame the woman for staying when she's scared out of her mind. God bless you and your baby.
Does he work? Make a plan where you can wait until he goes to work and get out. Go to the police department, fill them in on all of the details. If you have any documented evidence (like journal entries or photos), this will help as well. They will be able to at least get you a restraining order and can also point you toward a shelter in your state or in another. There are actually a lot of shelters that no one knows about and are extremely hard to find, so that should ease some of your worries. Then you need to press charges. As I'm sure you're aware, not everyone obeys restraining orders, so do the maximum to keep him away from you.
Again, my heart is with you. Pleae remember, you are in no way to blame for this. It's not anything that you did or didn't do. You are an innocent victim and nothing else. It sickens me when people blame the woman for staying when she's scared out of her mind. God bless you and your baby.
It is very important that you get out of the situation ASAP. I was in a situation like this, and was very lucky to escape with my life. I finally got up the nerve to leave, but it wasnt until I had been beaten and robbed of all self worth and esteem. You need to get out before something bad happens to you, and eventually your child. If the child is raised around abuse, the brain will not develop correctly, and the child is likely to have emotional/depression/anger issues as an adult. I should know, some of my first memories were dometstic violence, and I ended up getting with an abuser myself. Anyway, I am in California, so I called a domestic violence hotline in NC, and they said that if you call them, they can help direct you to a shelter in your area. I know a shelter does not sound great, but it is one of the only ways to get away from an abusive man safely. Here is the number, 704 788 2826. I hope that you will find the courage you need to protect yourself. Email me if you need anything jennl46@yahoo.(If you have no phone, email me and maybe we can work something out, you may be able to contact a shelter thorugh email or something, but first I need to know that you really need help.I will check my email tonight and tmw)