I was with my guy nearly 10 years and he cheated for a girl 20 yrs younger than him. I am only 29. We didn’t live together as he had bad experience with a girl 10yrs ago. I stayed 1nce a week. Dad thinks he’s using me so I asked my guy to explain his intentions but he didn’t. I lost my job+ was so depressed & told him, he could do better than me. One night he was playing guitar on stage, got asked out + said yes. He told me it’s cos I said he could do better. He said she had gone back to London so he wouldn’t see her anymore but 1 night I heard him asking her for lunch the next day. I spoke to the girl and she said she not interested in him that way at all. But I then found him using the Internet looking at sexually transmitted diseases.
We got back together but then he cheated again as his pal was dying of cancer and he said he wasn’t dealing with the grief well. Eventually I found out he was sleeping with his student who is also 20yrs younger. He chucked her after a month and is now with another bloody woman after he got sacked by his boss. His whole family has turned their back and his sister in law even blames me saying I should have been more comforting when his pal was ill. I was very comforting and cos he completely cut me from his life when his pal got ill, I was only asking what’s going on as I haven’t seen him in ages. He never answered his mob, told me he needed space & was out with this other girl behind my back. His nieces and nephews were moving in with their partners of two yrs and I’m 10 yrs older than them and still waiting after 8 yrs so I said "Look, if you’re not interested in me, then say so. If you love me, then lets move this relationship up a notch because you are driving me crazy. I was defending him to everybody who said he was using me and I spent ages arguing with my family, I was almost always crying & just wanted him to step up and prove he loved me but he wanted me to ignore them and for us to just be happy all the time. I wasn’t asking for marriage, I just wanted something as I had stayed once a week for 8yrs and felt I had understood enough. I found out he slept with this blonde little tart that was a nasty piece of work and I shouted that I was giving him space to deal with grief and he is cheating.
The other problem is that when I found out he cheated; I went to my pals who didn’t care. I was so shocked cos known my pals long time. My so called best friend when she found out just said "oh well, I am getting married." She didn’t say anything like "are you ok, lets go out and cheer up etc" she just started planning her wedding to a guy 10 yrs younger than her (she is 29) and known him 2 months. (Her first ever boyfriend.) Because it’s her first ever boyfriend I dont see her any more cos she always busy and I dont have many other pals. I was meant to be her maid of honor at her wedding and when my ex cheated, she told me "sorry but it would be too upsetting for you to be my maid of honor so I have picked another person." The other girl is her ex room mate of 1yr and is 18 yrs old. My pal is 30 now. I told my pal how much that hurt and she was just like "yeah well" Seems like cos my ex and I were couple so long and my pals were all single (they resent the way I look and I’m not being big headed, its just I used to get asked out a lot and they didn’t) they seem really happy he cheated and are getting their kicks in as well while I am down. My friend even smiled when I told her he cheated! What’s that about? Ps no never neglected pals, always split time between ex and them.
We got back together but then he cheated again as his pal was dying of cancer and he said he wasn’t dealing with the grief well. Eventually I found out he was sleeping with his student who is also 20yrs younger. He chucked her after a month and is now with another bloody woman after he got sacked by his boss. His whole family has turned their back and his sister in law even blames me saying I should have been more comforting when his pal was ill. I was very comforting and cos he completely cut me from his life when his pal got ill, I was only asking what’s going on as I haven’t seen him in ages. He never answered his mob, told me he needed space & was out with this other girl behind my back. His nieces and nephews were moving in with their partners of two yrs and I’m 10 yrs older than them and still waiting after 8 yrs so I said "Look, if you’re not interested in me, then say so. If you love me, then lets move this relationship up a notch because you are driving me crazy. I was defending him to everybody who said he was using me and I spent ages arguing with my family, I was almost always crying & just wanted him to step up and prove he loved me but he wanted me to ignore them and for us to just be happy all the time. I wasn’t asking for marriage, I just wanted something as I had stayed once a week for 8yrs and felt I had understood enough. I found out he slept with this blonde little tart that was a nasty piece of work and I shouted that I was giving him space to deal with grief and he is cheating.
The other problem is that when I found out he cheated; I went to my pals who didn’t care. I was so shocked cos known my pals long time. My so called best friend when she found out just said "oh well, I am getting married." She didn’t say anything like "are you ok, lets go out and cheer up etc" she just started planning her wedding to a guy 10 yrs younger than her (she is 29) and known him 2 months. (Her first ever boyfriend.) Because it’s her first ever boyfriend I dont see her any more cos she always busy and I dont have many other pals. I was meant to be her maid of honor at her wedding and when my ex cheated, she told me "sorry but it would be too upsetting for you to be my maid of honor so I have picked another person." The other girl is her ex room mate of 1yr and is 18 yrs old. My pal is 30 now. I told my pal how much that hurt and she was just like "yeah well" Seems like cos my ex and I were couple so long and my pals were all single (they resent the way I look and I’m not being big headed, its just I used to get asked out a lot and they didn’t) they seem really happy he cheated and are getting their kicks in as well while I am down. My friend even smiled when I told her he cheated! What’s that about? Ps no never neglected pals, always split time between ex and them.