I’d like to share this situation with you.
THere is a guy a really like. I met him in a bar and that night I went over to his flat and had sex with him. I have to say that I have done that only two times in my life. Anywasys, It was not only sex though. Before sex we talked a lot and that is when I realizad that I was not only attracted to him phisically, but that he is everything I look for in a man. He is sweet, mature, intelligent, he’s not arrogant, he’s caring… He’s everything I want in a guy and this intimacy that was generated through the conversation is something I haven’t felt with anyone in a long time.
The problema is that when we started talking about relationships and ex relationships, he said that he doesn’t want to have a relationship with anyone right now because he has always been in relationships and he thinks he needs some time on his own. He said also that he wanted to tell that clearly to me because he didn’t want to hurt me by making me relieve something else. I obvisously felt very sad because I really like him. I even cried… but I told him that in that case I couldn’t see him anymore.
A week later I met him and he suggested we have something “no Springs attached”…. I said I was not interested in that because It was very likely I’d end up falling for him. So he said “well, at least let me be your friend”. And then he said things like “you don’t hate me, do you?” and “are you gonna delete me from msn”?....
I said well ok, I guess we can be friends but that is IT and nothing else will happen, no sex or anything like that at all. A couple of days ago he wrote me to tell me… So… do you want to go have some beer??? Just as friends…
My questions are:
1.Why do you think he wants to be my friendo?
2.Do you think he’d ever want a relationship with me?
3.Should I keep seeing him?
THere is a guy a really like. I met him in a bar and that night I went over to his flat and had sex with him. I have to say that I have done that only two times in my life. Anywasys, It was not only sex though. Before sex we talked a lot and that is when I realizad that I was not only attracted to him phisically, but that he is everything I look for in a man. He is sweet, mature, intelligent, he’s not arrogant, he’s caring… He’s everything I want in a guy and this intimacy that was generated through the conversation is something I haven’t felt with anyone in a long time.
The problema is that when we started talking about relationships and ex relationships, he said that he doesn’t want to have a relationship with anyone right now because he has always been in relationships and he thinks he needs some time on his own. He said also that he wanted to tell that clearly to me because he didn’t want to hurt me by making me relieve something else. I obvisously felt very sad because I really like him. I even cried… but I told him that in that case I couldn’t see him anymore.
A week later I met him and he suggested we have something “no Springs attached”…. I said I was not interested in that because It was very likely I’d end up falling for him. So he said “well, at least let me be your friend”. And then he said things like “you don’t hate me, do you?” and “are you gonna delete me from msn”?....
I said well ok, I guess we can be friends but that is IT and nothing else will happen, no sex or anything like that at all. A couple of days ago he wrote me to tell me… So… do you want to go have some beer??? Just as friends…
My questions are:
1.Why do you think he wants to be my friendo?
2.Do you think he’d ever want a relationship with me?
3.Should I keep seeing him?