lovemyfamily
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Ok, so this is what has caused our arguement. Which we hardly ever argue so im taking this really hard.
His brother, his brother GF and their 1yr old baby asked to stay with us for one week. I immediately said no. The thing is they only have one week until her mother comes picks them up and takes them up north. BUT this has meant to be happening for the last few weeks. But the mum never comes. So i immediately know they wont be leaving in one more week. They are big bludgers. neither work, and neither have ever worked! My hubbys mum kicked them out and they have since burned their bridges with about 5 different friends floating from house to house. They are bludgers and they fight and argue. They smoke in front of their baby, and they are just such drop kicks. She has some serious mental issues (not being mean) but she is absolutely psycho. and he is abusive and they are just horrible. i know it sounds horrible to say. but its 100% true. His response was "they have a baby where the hell r they gonna stay" which i understand. But they are at one of their friends house now and i believe they want to move in here for the week because its easier (we r closer to town).
We had a huge argument and it sucks because I feel like i dont have a leg to stand on. My family moved from interstate and my sisters family (5of them) stayed with us for 2weeks until they found their own house. They paid their way. had their own transport. My hubbys brother and gf dont have transport and never have money. which means i know we wil be stuck with them eating our food and possibly being asked to lend them money. also they dont have a car and as it is, ask us to drive them places.
i immediately started crying. i know that my partner feels terrible for them. and he bought up the fact my family lived here for 2wks (which we discussed for weeks before it happened- i thought he was fine with it, obviously not)
ive been crying for ages. i told him "in the end its your choice. ive said no, but its your house also and your family. but if u think they will be gone in one week your wrong, and if u think the next week is going to be 'fun' your wrong" We've already started fighting over it, and i guarantee you we will keep fighting. Him and i havent really spoke. But im sure he has told them to come over. Its 730 at night so i think they will be coming tomorrow morning im not sure.
This is going to be the week from hell. The thing is, they HAVE to leave after one week because my partner is having surgery and our spare room will be needed by my mum who will be staying with us to help me out (hubby will be bedridden from spinal surgery- and i work, we will need some help)
i dont know how to cope with all this. i dont want them hear. But i know my partner wont say no. i understand they have a baby, the person who doesnt want them living with hiim, wont kick them to the streets (i know for a fact) but hubby is believing that he will. ahhhhh i just want to cry. i know its only one week but u seriously dont know them, its going to be hell and im going to look like the bad guy in the end kickin them out after one week.
btw we have a 8month old. and hubby works all day. so im the one who will be stuck at home with them. eugh
His brother, his brother GF and their 1yr old baby asked to stay with us for one week. I immediately said no. The thing is they only have one week until her mother comes picks them up and takes them up north. BUT this has meant to be happening for the last few weeks. But the mum never comes. So i immediately know they wont be leaving in one more week. They are big bludgers. neither work, and neither have ever worked! My hubbys mum kicked them out and they have since burned their bridges with about 5 different friends floating from house to house. They are bludgers and they fight and argue. They smoke in front of their baby, and they are just such drop kicks. She has some serious mental issues (not being mean) but she is absolutely psycho. and he is abusive and they are just horrible. i know it sounds horrible to say. but its 100% true. His response was "they have a baby where the hell r they gonna stay" which i understand. But they are at one of their friends house now and i believe they want to move in here for the week because its easier (we r closer to town).
We had a huge argument and it sucks because I feel like i dont have a leg to stand on. My family moved from interstate and my sisters family (5of them) stayed with us for 2weeks until they found their own house. They paid their way. had their own transport. My hubbys brother and gf dont have transport and never have money. which means i know we wil be stuck with them eating our food and possibly being asked to lend them money. also they dont have a car and as it is, ask us to drive them places.
i immediately started crying. i know that my partner feels terrible for them. and he bought up the fact my family lived here for 2wks (which we discussed for weeks before it happened- i thought he was fine with it, obviously not)
ive been crying for ages. i told him "in the end its your choice. ive said no, but its your house also and your family. but if u think they will be gone in one week your wrong, and if u think the next week is going to be 'fun' your wrong" We've already started fighting over it, and i guarantee you we will keep fighting. Him and i havent really spoke. But im sure he has told them to come over. Its 730 at night so i think they will be coming tomorrow morning im not sure.
This is going to be the week from hell. The thing is, they HAVE to leave after one week because my partner is having surgery and our spare room will be needed by my mum who will be staying with us to help me out (hubby will be bedridden from spinal surgery- and i work, we will need some help)
i dont know how to cope with all this. i dont want them hear. But i know my partner wont say no. i understand they have a baby, the person who doesnt want them living with hiim, wont kick them to the streets (i know for a fact) but hubby is believing that he will. ahhhhh i just want to cry. i know its only one week but u seriously dont know them, its going to be hell and im going to look like the bad guy in the end kickin them out after one week.
btw we have a 8month old. and hubby works all day. so im the one who will be stuck at home with them. eugh