...him to confess? I am 21. My boyfriend (24) and his future step-sister (16) have a really weird relationship. They live in the same house, and I am just really uncomfortable with their relationship. But when I first started dating him, I realized that they are almost related and I shouldn't try to get in between people and their families (even though he's only known her like 2 months longer than he's known me). But I have always gotten this weird vibe from her.
Well one night, I read my boyfriend's text message conversation with her on his phone. It was extremely odd. I read it to be like this:
Her: did you get some yet?
Him: no
Her: I'm getting giddy
I confronted him about it and I asked him if he was getting drugs for her. He told me that she is addicted to black-tar heroine. He told me he was hiding it because he was ashamed he hasn't said anything to her mother. (her mother does cocaine so why the hell would she care anyway...)
Well fast forward 2 months or so.. tonight I went to his house, and his sister left with her girlfriend and my BF implicated that they were going to go pick up some drugs. Okay, so they are texting back and forth and as my BF is texting her back, I kind of glance over and ask what she is saying, and he deliberately hides the phone from me and tries to distract me by showing something his aunt posted on facebook.... From that point, I was super irritated.
We were just sitting watching TV when she came home and they went upstairs into her room and shut the door. My BF immediately received a text, and he immediately got up from the couch (unannounced, didn't say a word to me), walked upstairs into her room, and closed the door behind him. I thought maybe he was going up there to have a brief word with her, but he stayed in her room for at least 5 minutes. He came down and sat back on the couch and he wreaked! I am not familiar with black tar heroine, but he smelled like warm dog food. I asked him what was going on and he said he was talking to her about issues she was having with a friend.. I had to prod some more and ask him if they were smoking up there, and he said yeah. Then I had to prod some more and I was really upset and I told him I felt like he was hiding something from me because of him hiding her texts from me. Voluntarily, he showed me the texts and I was floored.. before he handed his phone to me, he said "you are going to think the wrong thing when you read this".
Him: did you get it?
Him: can I have a rip?
Her: If you're ready, get up here and smoke it [after this text is when he got up and left]
He tried to tell me that he just wants to keep an eye on her and he wanted to know if she actually got the drugs. He said that she won't tell him anything unless he acts like he wants some. But it makes no sense! Why does he absolutely need to know? Isn't the fact that she's leaving to go get it proof enough? Better yet, isn't the fact that she said "get up here and smoke it" proof enough? He didn't need to go up there with the door closed for 5 minutes.
And now I actually realize that, in the text I read before when I was pretty much snooping, I had the names reversed. So he actually asked her if she had the stuff, and HE was the one who said he was getting giddy, and it makes more sense like this considering what happened tonight!
Also, he is always freaking broke! He has a job and works full time, yet he never has any money. NEVER. He has bills to pay, but that doesn't account for him virtually never having money.
Oh my god, I know this is ridiculously long, but I really hope maybe at least one person takes the time to read this. I am pretty much positive that he's doing drugs, but I WANT to believe that he's not. I need third party advice really bad. Also, I guarantee he will persistently deny it and he will never confess on his own, since I've had to pry everything else out of him. I had planned on marrying this guy, but not if he's addicted to heroin! I am absolutely floored by this whole situation, and I am just confused and hurt and I really don't know what to do.
I'm so glad so many people have responded.. I should mention that the last maybe 4 months, he does this really bizzarre thing where he will fall asleep at really inappropriate times, like when I am in the middle of telling him something or while he is eating. Usually it takes a lot to wake him too.
He seems to be the same person I knew when we first started dating, except for falling asleep at inappropriate times and we rarely do anything anymore because he has no money. When I try to take him somewhere, he seems disinterested and like he always wants to stay home. We went to a really nice zoo recently (my treat) and he whined almost the whole time...
Well one night, I read my boyfriend's text message conversation with her on his phone. It was extremely odd. I read it to be like this:
Her: did you get some yet?
Him: no
Her: I'm getting giddy
I confronted him about it and I asked him if he was getting drugs for her. He told me that she is addicted to black-tar heroine. He told me he was hiding it because he was ashamed he hasn't said anything to her mother. (her mother does cocaine so why the hell would she care anyway...)
Well fast forward 2 months or so.. tonight I went to his house, and his sister left with her girlfriend and my BF implicated that they were going to go pick up some drugs. Okay, so they are texting back and forth and as my BF is texting her back, I kind of glance over and ask what she is saying, and he deliberately hides the phone from me and tries to distract me by showing something his aunt posted on facebook.... From that point, I was super irritated.
We were just sitting watching TV when she came home and they went upstairs into her room and shut the door. My BF immediately received a text, and he immediately got up from the couch (unannounced, didn't say a word to me), walked upstairs into her room, and closed the door behind him. I thought maybe he was going up there to have a brief word with her, but he stayed in her room for at least 5 minutes. He came down and sat back on the couch and he wreaked! I am not familiar with black tar heroine, but he smelled like warm dog food. I asked him what was going on and he said he was talking to her about issues she was having with a friend.. I had to prod some more and ask him if they were smoking up there, and he said yeah. Then I had to prod some more and I was really upset and I told him I felt like he was hiding something from me because of him hiding her texts from me. Voluntarily, he showed me the texts and I was floored.. before he handed his phone to me, he said "you are going to think the wrong thing when you read this".
Him: did you get it?
Him: can I have a rip?
Her: If you're ready, get up here and smoke it [after this text is when he got up and left]
He tried to tell me that he just wants to keep an eye on her and he wanted to know if she actually got the drugs. He said that she won't tell him anything unless he acts like he wants some. But it makes no sense! Why does he absolutely need to know? Isn't the fact that she's leaving to go get it proof enough? Better yet, isn't the fact that she said "get up here and smoke it" proof enough? He didn't need to go up there with the door closed for 5 minutes.
And now I actually realize that, in the text I read before when I was pretty much snooping, I had the names reversed. So he actually asked her if she had the stuff, and HE was the one who said he was getting giddy, and it makes more sense like this considering what happened tonight!
Also, he is always freaking broke! He has a job and works full time, yet he never has any money. NEVER. He has bills to pay, but that doesn't account for him virtually never having money.
Oh my god, I know this is ridiculously long, but I really hope maybe at least one person takes the time to read this. I am pretty much positive that he's doing drugs, but I WANT to believe that he's not. I need third party advice really bad. Also, I guarantee he will persistently deny it and he will never confess on his own, since I've had to pry everything else out of him. I had planned on marrying this guy, but not if he's addicted to heroin! I am absolutely floored by this whole situation, and I am just confused and hurt and I really don't know what to do.
I'm so glad so many people have responded.. I should mention that the last maybe 4 months, he does this really bizzarre thing where he will fall asleep at really inappropriate times, like when I am in the middle of telling him something or while he is eating. Usually it takes a lot to wake him too.
He seems to be the same person I knew when we first started dating, except for falling asleep at inappropriate times and we rarely do anything anymore because he has no money. When I try to take him somewhere, he seems disinterested and like he always wants to stay home. We went to a really nice zoo recently (my treat) and he whined almost the whole time...