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jigwigpig

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I am a very successful (in life) 50-year-old male with my own company etc etc and am in desperate need to be able to talk to a doctor or some one who may be able to help me as I am extremely low at the moment, in the way that I seem to take everything to heart to the extent that I seem to be falling out with everybody including close family and even my son to whom works with me and we are and always have been very very very close but the way things are going I am afraid that I will drive him away with my down attitude as I have recently had a few rows with him. I seem to be falling out with people I have known for many many years to whom I went to school with that I met up with some months ago, when I say falling out I mean I couldn
 
I think a psychiatrist will be able to help you, regardless of the ultimate diagnosis. I've always had bad luck with psychologists, their psycho-babble was just meaningless to me. If you don't want to see a psychiatrist, see a neurologist, they should be familiar with the different types, and causes, of depression. There are many physical causes of depression, chronic low mood, irritability, anxiety, agitation, etc. From something as serious as brain disease to a simple case of hypothyroidism.

And stop beating yourself up, being socially awkward doesn't make you bad. Depression can make you feel that way, even if you were a saint! Depression is treatable, and even a lack of social abilities can be overcome. Don't give up!! Go see a doctor.



Did you have problems as a child? Clumsy, "little professor" type? The social aspect sounds like Aspergers Syndrome. It's usually found in childhood but often misdiagnosed in adults (who went undiagnosed as kids) as depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder or even just as a "nerdy", spiky personality.

Aspergers Syndrome info page:
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/001549.htm
 
Hello bad man, and welcome to the boards!

You certainly do not sound "bad", perhaps just a little confused right now. The fact that you are aware of your behavior, and you want to change it...is a big, and important step.

I advise you to start with a good overall check up with your doctor. That should include blood work, and any other tests your doctor recommends. He/she may prescribe you an anti-depressant, which may work very well for you and some of your symptoms.

Since you have created many successes in business, family and long term relationships...you certainly deserve to enjoy the same success in overcoming your recent behaviors. While you are sorting things out for yourself, I would recommend you focus on positive aspects of yourself and others you interact with. Your son will certainly understand, and be patient, if you explain that you are working on things, and you do not want to push him away.

For the others, I would just avoid any more negative interactions. That might mean taking a little break from them, while you take care of yourself.

For starters, get yourself a good physical...and rule out any physiological issues. We are always here, if you need a place to vent, or seek support...keep us posted, OK?

Best to you...
 
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