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What Should I do?
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I have been married a few months now to my 4 years long distance relationship boyfriend.every time we used to meet as BF and GF over the weekend we would Always have a lot of sex over the weekends which used to be every 5-8 weeks. ever since we got married, we have had sex like 5 times, each time as a result of me whining and complaining about wanting it and then forcing him to pretty much do it with me. Not once has he initiated it after marriage..or let alone in the past 2 years. Early in the relationship it used to be him who used to initiate it, but for the past some years it has always been me..
I complain to him about it when i don't get it, and If i am lucky I get it once after like days of asking for it..and when i get it..Its about 3-5 Mins of quick wham baam thank you ma'am..
What Am i doing wrong.?
Before we got married we used to participate in phone sex which always involved a 3rd or 4th or 5th fantasy person and he preferred to have more people than just me. and it was never other girls. It was always other guys doing things to me. Never him. He said he liked the idea of other men pleasing me because it made him feel good that I would be enjoying it.
Anytime i bring up the issue, it seems like i am trying to pick a fight again and again and he is getting tired of it. I can tell. I don't blame him. But its like, if the problem has not been addressed an resolved then no matter how many times we have sex after an argument the initial problem is still there..
What do i do?
It hurts me so much when I am crying on the side of the bed after getting rejected night after night, weekend after weekend .. and sometimes getting lucky and getting a quick 3-5 minute same old sex that we practiced 4 years ago the 1st time we did it.
He tells me I want it too much and that marriage is not all about sex. But i feel like If i am not happy in bed, then I am not gonna be walking around all lively (like my personality) even tho i am doing that now. I can't see myself doing this a few years down the road if this is already bothering me a few months into my marriage.
His excuse is Always that he is tired and always promises me sex friday or another day and then when that day comes and i am wearing my sexy lingerie (his favorite that he can't keep his eyes off of) then he says to do it later at night...then he says lets do it in the morning..I promise..and then its like..TONIGHT i promise..He promises and promises and never comes Through..
I wait and I wait ...and then it doesn't happen. It really hurts.
He also says that I should let it be and let him come to me. And I tried doing that and it has been 3 weeks and he hasn't come to me yet. How much is long enough to wait. I feel like he is fooling me and telling me to wait and stalling me and just getting his way.
After waiting for weeks and weeks, I just give up and initiate and get rejected again.
What do i Do?
What am I doing wrong?
Please help me?
I complain to him about it when i don't get it, and If i am lucky I get it once after like days of asking for it..and when i get it..Its about 3-5 Mins of quick wham baam thank you ma'am..
What Am i doing wrong.?
Before we got married we used to participate in phone sex which always involved a 3rd or 4th or 5th fantasy person and he preferred to have more people than just me. and it was never other girls. It was always other guys doing things to me. Never him. He said he liked the idea of other men pleasing me because it made him feel good that I would be enjoying it.
Anytime i bring up the issue, it seems like i am trying to pick a fight again and again and he is getting tired of it. I can tell. I don't blame him. But its like, if the problem has not been addressed an resolved then no matter how many times we have sex after an argument the initial problem is still there..
What do i do?
It hurts me so much when I am crying on the side of the bed after getting rejected night after night, weekend after weekend .. and sometimes getting lucky and getting a quick 3-5 minute same old sex that we practiced 4 years ago the 1st time we did it.
He tells me I want it too much and that marriage is not all about sex. But i feel like If i am not happy in bed, then I am not gonna be walking around all lively (like my personality) even tho i am doing that now. I can't see myself doing this a few years down the road if this is already bothering me a few months into my marriage.
His excuse is Always that he is tired and always promises me sex friday or another day and then when that day comes and i am wearing my sexy lingerie (his favorite that he can't keep his eyes off of) then he says to do it later at night...then he says lets do it in the morning..I promise..and then its like..TONIGHT i promise..He promises and promises and never comes Through..
I wait and I wait ...and then it doesn't happen. It really hurts.
He also says that I should let it be and let him come to me. And I tried doing that and it has been 3 weeks and he hasn't come to me yet. How much is long enough to wait. I feel like he is fooling me and telling me to wait and stalling me and just getting his way.
After waiting for weeks and weeks, I just give up and initiate and get rejected again.
What do i Do?
What am I doing wrong?
Please help me?