please help. i am in an awful situation....?

[Lyn G]

Hi I had a 12 yr relationship domestic violent relationship which was not good, and when it ended i had abrief 3 mth relationship which resulted in me becoming pregnant. when it ended i saw the person 2 mths later for 1 night and hence pregnancy. He wanted me to abort child as he had started seeing someone else, but i couldnt do it, so continued with this pregnancy knowing i would be a single mum. i am 36 and have a career nd am financially stable.
when i was 6 mths pregnant he text me, saying he felt bad and wanted to catch up to see if we stilol had chemistry there. He was sorry and had broken up with the other girl.
I made up excuses as i didnt want to deal with stress in my last trimester.
My baby is nearly 5 weeks now and he does not know he is a dad.I am managing fine, but have seen the babys dad 3 times and still have not told him.
I dont know whether to tell him or not.
I dont want to share the baby - and have the baby stay part week with him and me. I also dont want child maintenenace and dont want him on birth certificate, so i am so confused. what do i do? Tell him, or walk away from him. Everyone thinks i dont know who the babys dad is.???????
Part of me thinks he wont cause trouble for me, but another part thinks he might.
I am also going thru a court settlement from 12 yr relationship, so cant deal with more crises at present.PLEASE HELP????

 

[Zee-ster]

You should tell him he's the father & give him the option to be one. I don't mean to be harsh here but this isn't all about you and what you would like. Don't deny your newborn the chance to get to know his biological father. That ain't right. Courts side with the mother & it'll all work out in the end. Just do the right thing & tell him the truth. Good luck!