Please give me advise on how to approach my feelings with my daughter-in-law?

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My oldest son has been married two years and have a son who is a little over a year. Her family all lives near to them. They were there at the birth of our grandson, while we were told to wait three weeks before we could see him-reason being they wanted their time alone. We have had a pretty good relationship, but it has been up and down. I only see my grandson once every three or four months over a weekend. She sent me her family web site to view and I noticed none of us-myself, my husband nor my oldest son's brother were listed as part of the family, no birthdays, no pictures, etc. She sent me a blog concerning the election, I looked into it and responded, not to her liking and she informed me to stop sending messages concerning religion, politics or money ever again. If you don't want my opinion don't send them to me.
Please give me some guidance on how to approach her on how I am feeling left out as a member of the family.
 
That is sad. You need to explain to her that you are feeling left out and don't feel like she is considering you as part of the family, and express how much you want to be a part. Ask her how she thinks you could work together to change this.

I think women can often feel defensive about their mother-in-laws being too interferring. That's why she doesn't like hearing your opinions - she thinks your judging her. It's a conflict of interest, because she knows your son (her husband) is ultimately your main priority.
 
first speak to ur son and let him know how you feel. then sit her down and let her know NO yelling just speaking like 2 adults I am sure you guys will figure something out. Good luck!
 
That's your son's wife, and as long as she doesn't try to separate him from your family, let her be ignorant. You might want to bring it up to your son that you feel some resentment from his wife, and you want to see your grand kids more, but try not to make a big deal of it. If he senses you're upset, he's going to confront her, and it'll just get worse. Let your boy handle it as much as possible.
 
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