Rob Livingston
New member
sex? Do I seem gay? I'm 20 years old and at college all my friends have already lost their virginities and had sex, which makes me practically the only one who hasn't. They always brag about it and say that I should just go ahead and do it with my girlfriend, who I've been with for a little over a year now.
Sometimes I feel pressured, like it's a bad thing for a male to wait in this society? I'm not gay or frigid or whatever people would like to call it with their assumptions, I just enjoy the fact that me and my girlfriend are close emotionally and enjoy our time together with no added complications.
I just think she's wanting to do it now, like she'll say little things about it or mention that her friends were talking about sex in topic and highlight the fact that we still haven't done it yet. She's tried to "go there" a few times but I've kind of said that we couldn't. I do want to with her, but feel like I just want to take our time in a way.... but then feel as if I am going to lose her possibly or she'll get offended and think I'm not interested in her. She has asked why a few times and I think she might get the wrong impression and think I might be gay? Should I talk to her about it? Is it such a bad thing for a male to want to wait it out a bit?
I do feel aroused a lot with her, when we kiss and mess around, but just deal with it, I suppose. Believe me I'm not in anyway attracted to guys - at least I think I'm not - and do wonder what it would feel like, constantly. I just want to wait I guess.
Sometimes I feel pressured, like it's a bad thing for a male to wait in this society? I'm not gay or frigid or whatever people would like to call it with their assumptions, I just enjoy the fact that me and my girlfriend are close emotionally and enjoy our time together with no added complications.
I just think she's wanting to do it now, like she'll say little things about it or mention that her friends were talking about sex in topic and highlight the fact that we still haven't done it yet. She's tried to "go there" a few times but I've kind of said that we couldn't. I do want to with her, but feel like I just want to take our time in a way.... but then feel as if I am going to lose her possibly or she'll get offended and think I'm not interested in her. She has asked why a few times and I think she might get the wrong impression and think I might be gay? Should I talk to her about it? Is it such a bad thing for a male to want to wait it out a bit?
I do feel aroused a lot with her, when we kiss and mess around, but just deal with it, I suppose. Believe me I'm not in anyway attracted to guys - at least I think I'm not - and do wonder what it would feel like, constantly. I just want to wait I guess.